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Well, this is not very MB-like, but is a good thing to keep in mind for those that have been married for over 7 or 8 years.
I was married to my son's father for 12 years. I don't know how we made it that long, because there were lots of problems - his heart attack at 37, then alcoholism and abuse. He died 4 years ago.
I'm getting close to thinking about retirement, and found out yesterday that I can retire at 60, and use HIS Social Security benefits, since we were married at least 10 years. His are much higher than mine, and it is considered survivor's benefits, so I can retire 2 years earlier.
So any of you who are hanging in there, and are close to being married 10 years might want to hang for a little longer.
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Yeah, someone else told me that too. He does pay into SS, way more than I. That is good to know but how does it work if he remarries? Am I still entitled to it?
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Married 9 days short of 12 years b/f D was final
5 kids-10 and younger (3 DD & 2 DS)
WH filed for D 11/05
D final 05/06
***Of course you would DIE for your kids, the question is will you LIVE for them***
***Time heals nothing but faith heals everything***
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Yep, doesn't matter. You can't remarry until you are 60, and still get it. But who cares? But if you DO remarry, and something happens to end it, you are eligible again.
I didn't plan it that way, but did get married again. Now, after 15 years, WH left me for OW and we are getting divorced. So I am again eligible for my first husband's SS benefits.
I know when you are young, you don't think about it, but let me tell you, when you get older, you WILL be glad you stayed married 10 years.
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Me-BxW-(36)
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Married 9 days short of 12 years b/f D was final
5 kids-10 and younger (3 DD & 2 DS)
WH filed for D 11/05
D final 05/06
***Of course you would DIE for your kids, the question is will you LIVE for them***
***Time heals nothing but faith heals everything***
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thank goodness the LAW protects these rights.....MY h said he didn't think i should be able to benefit at ALL from being married to him and he asked me if i would waive this right......my lawyer said that's not even possible!
but i make more than he does anyway so it won't matter but it still hurt alot that he feels this way after 15 years of marraige
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The other good thing is that if the husband gets disabled, your children can collect from his disability.
Eav - It goes both ways. Your husband can collect from your SS.
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that's fine with me....i wouldn't ask him to waive that right even if it was allowed
unlike my h, i'm not pretending our marraige never exsisted
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What happens if he's married to you for 10+ years and remarries to someone else for 10+ yrs?
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Me 44 WH 46
dd Mar 7 06
Dday 2 Jan 19 07 EA and PA
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It doesn't matter. Anyone married 10 years can collect under his Social Security.
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Yep,
My father, a serial cheater, had at cetain period in time, two ex-wifes collecting on his Social Security at the same time.
One was married for just over 10 years, the other was married for 12 years.
Also, my dad married his 5th wife, and she had kids. My dad was able to collect extra benefits because of those children.
What a crazy system we have.
k.d.'s heartbreak
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
Me, betrayed wife 46
Former Wandering Husband, 51 E/A 2005
28 years of marriage
DD 26, DS 24
O/W aka, Rat 29, A-D Assisted Living
Discovery 8-20-05 Recovery ongoing.
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Why is this very unMB like? I think it is a good thing when it can benefit a BS and family. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> L.
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Believer,
I've got a question. I was married to my 1st wife for 19.5 years. She was the WS and later left us to 'find herself.' After 5 years as a single parent, I married my wondersul present wife. We have been maiired over 20 years. Does my 1st wife get any of my SS benefits? If she does, there is no justice in our system.
Be excellent to each other and bless God.
Ronald.
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PS: She has been remarried several times and is now living alone.
Be excellent to each other and bless God.
Ronald.
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Yep, she can get benefits as long as she is no longer married to someone else.
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Since she is there in Palm Springs and we are now here in mid Missouri, I am not going to even tell the kids.
Be excellent to each other and bless God.
Ronald.
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