I was talking to my mother today and she said:


I understand why I wasn't invited, but it irritates me that I wasn't told about the wedding. I would have sent a note or gift since this is the first nephew to ever hug me and call me Aunt fbwidow. It's no surprise OW was there since I'm fairly certain that WH is living with her. SIL would have invited OW even if me and WH had stayed together since she is best friends with OW.

It really bugs me that people are still trying to "protect me" by hiding things. I probably would never have married WH if I had know things I know now. It makes me wonder what other information they are keeping from me.

Strangly what doesn't bother me is that WH is with OW. I don't love him. I don't hate him. I might actually pity him if I wasn't so irritated that he has drawn out this D.

LOL!!! WH spending a weekend with his family and OW at a wedding makes a lot of sense out of his recent behavior. OW must certainly have marriage plans and his family has pressured him to refuse my settlement offer. They can't blame WH so they have focused their anger on me and DD. Come to think of it, I forgot WH's b-day which was around the same time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

I guess I'm just mad at myself because I let what they think bother me. Why do I let it bother me that they think they have pulled something on me once again? I'm tempted to send something to nephew. However, I know that would just stir the pot and lower me to their level. I've really got to get over some of these control issues!

Do you want to send a present because you like your nephew? If so, send it. If not, don't. This is silliness.

And I'm so glad you couldn't care less about STBX taking the OW. These things are bound to happen, but they don't have to affect you.

It is silliness. That's why I get so agrivated at myself when I let it get to me.

This wedding reminds me of how much I miss my two SS's, especially since oldest will probably marry his GF in the next few years. I've dealt with my feelings toward WH's, A, and never really been mad at OW. I just still can't get rid of the anger over losing SS's. I'm trying to let go of it, but it's tough.

I do like my nephew and his wife. However, I've already had to threaten a restraining order on SIL twice and worry that sending something would set her off. With my court date coming up, I think it's better if I keep silent.