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Hi Everyone-
Question:
Wh cell phone is cut-off and has been for 2 weeks. Her cell is cut off- only phone on is at the house. The kids told me when they called him, his mom told me when she tried to call him, i gave them the number to the house, everyone says they arent going to call out there. The kids called him at work- he said yes it was cut off he didnt have the money, he took them to the water park and the kids said all the way there and back he complained he had no money. Her cell is off (the one he got for her with my daughter on the plan and it was suppose to be paid for by both- we didnt find out until the first time there was a problem she was on this bill. He gave it to daughter at xmas) Daughter paid her bill- vanessa didnt owes almost a hundred. Daughter confronted him he said oh you didnt pay she said no your friend didnt pay.
Phone off. I didnt get involved with him or ask him about it. His mom is calling thinking he is at our house. I told her nope. She said she has talked to him and he says ill be over to fix car. Hasnt shown.
Found out (he dosent know I know- the bankruptcy she filed on house but didnt pay the agreed money only made 6 payments toward the 34 has been rescinded and i guess now the forecloseure or creditors can come thru now) done on 6/26/06.
He told kids hes coming by at 8 tonight to see them so i will make my self scarce- i was going to take kids to show tonight. He also said he is going to take them to get haircut first thing in morning (he told oldest this).
I got the money for mortgage to pay.
What happens now......
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Do you have a custody agreement / visitaiton schedule? Why is he making arrangements through the kids instead of talking to you (or your third party, if you're in Plan B) or going by a set schedule?
I think you should go ahead and take the kids to the show tonight, follow through on your own plans.
I'm confused about your mortgage situation -- it sounds like his house with OW is getting foreclosed on? Or is it your house? Is he supposed to help pay your mortgage? Do you have any of this on paper? I think you need some formal, court-ordered agreements to protect yourself, it sounds like he doesn't have any problem jerking you, or anyone else, around.
-AmI
WH's A: 1/18/06 - ???? D-Days: 3/28, 4/14 (false recovery), 9/5
8/11 -- WH announces that he doesn't love me anymore.
9/5, confirmed A was renewed, PBL & re-exposure which gets him investigated. He refuses to move out and gets blatant with the A.
10/15, “Plan F-U”. Yuck. But it did start some talking.
C w/OW continued until ....?
MC with SH
11/24, WH says he loves me.
Making progress. My own and with us.
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Plan B, her house not mine, legal seperation. money for our mortgage.
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yipee! let them live in the streets! that would sure make coming home look good wouldn't it?
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Winter:
Are you asking should you help him?
The answer is No.
Stay in your dark Plan B.
His world is crashing down on him and SUFFERING is GOOD for him. He needs to SUFFER the CONSEQUENCES of his actions.
Go on to the movies. Pay your mortgage if you have to. Your job is to take care of yourself and your children.
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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nope- not going to help him.
just wondering if i should take kids on with me or leave them for him to visit.
I havent talked to him at all.
He tells kids to tell me he loves me.... right..
How long does it take for a foreclosure anyway? will things move quickly now
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Oh, I see.
I don't think you should change YOUR PLANS for him. I would say for you and the kids to go ahead to the movies.
He needs to better plan his visits with the kids.
There's a good chance he won't show up..spoiling everybody's fun..
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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allright then- Pirates of the caribean it is.
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