While Monday seems to be the day for battling it out(money,house who pays what) it all seems like a bad dream. How can I feel happy for it to be coming, but sad at the same time. WH is all nice and sweet, like nothing is happening. How can this be? Why are most woman more emoitional then men. How can they think that once a divoce is over they will be filthy rich again, like before they were married? I find it hard to believe that divoce is the best, at least that is what WH tells me, Then he gets mad if I even begin to start picking up the pieces and putting my ducks in a row for my future. Its almost like he wants me to hit rock bottom, live in a box, have no money or life. I got pais yesterday and went food shopping, WH wants to know what I bought him to eat, when I told him nothing, he acted like it was still my job to shop and cook for him. Boy I tell you he wants the best of both worlds.

So, what was the result?

Today (Monday) was my day too - for the last mediation session. Now we go to pre-trial hearing (Thursday), and then on to full hearing.

Like you, I sense that even though HE wanted out, part of him wants to hang on. He also clearly doesn't want to suffer at all - he thinks he should have the same life but with me gone, and I should be the one to make all the sacrifices. Even though he brought nothing to the marriage and I'm the one who had all the assets (and will end up, it looks like, with nothing.) At this point, I just want this to be over and him out of my life.

I have asked the same questions you are asking, and now - finally - I have decided there aren't answers. We (you and I) have to go on regardless of whether it makes sense or not.

The spouse who leaves often rewrites history to suit his/her new (preferred) view of reality. That's just how it sometimes works out. And once that happens and gets cemented in that person's head, there's often no going back. In other words, we're probably going to be better off getting on with our lives because the way things were is gone, and will never be possible again.

Okay you two so how did Monday's bid days go? I trust they went well.

Monday turned out to be ok. WH has to pay for house until D is final and I have to pay for every thing else. WH is letting me keep the house. I'm just waiting on the refinace guy, fingers crossed I;ll sign this week. WH still lives under same roof, but once I sign and he does not have to pay, he will move. Found a summer job to help support me and my daughter. If house goes well can still work at schools and continue going to school full time at night.Things are looking good or as good as they can. He does not want much, just once out. No equity in the home so no money to give him. I hope and pray that anyone going through this crap will keep their chin up and realize things can't get any worse then having your spouse tell you they want out.

Hang in there Dakota. I am glad to hear that you and your daughter get to keep the home. As far as you WH "just wanting out". Well it took me a while to get to this point with my WW but guess what "GOOD RIDDANCE LOSER". This is truly how I feel about the WS that my former wife became and is until this day. I want nothing to do with this person and hopefully if my hearing goes well in August I will only have to see her every other weekend and at the occassional child event from now on. The people they become are losers and no worthy of a good spouse, so again I say "GOOD Riddance!".

sounds horrible. the kids really add alot of emotional issues, long term like you said School events and the fake stuff like that.

Its hard to imagine n those school events 6 of 10 marriages are divorcee's!

whats going on? there's 1,000's of these posts, its overwhelming.

yeah my wife yelled at me to get out, get lsot 100 times, now that i've had enough and I want out its a different tune. Again if not for the kids I'd been long, long gone...GOOD RIDDANCE like you said.