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In the past 6 months or so my husband has started his own floor tiling business. Now I think that is great and all but his home life with me has gotten bad. He will stay late at a clients home until midnite or later and his excuse will be " I was laying concrete in the pool, or I was on a roll," He won't call and give me a heads up that he won't be home for dinner or even come home at all. Now I do know something about construction and laying concrete at 2am is very unlikely, right? Moving on to the verbal aspect of our marriage. He is no longer the compaaionate loving man I married. The only time he is nice and lovey is when he wants to get laid and then after that is done it's right back to the same old Justin ( his name). He is constantly putting me down, never takes any interest into what im doing in my life. I understand he might be frustrated that I dont have a job but its not like I dont bring in a income, I do. Am I doing something wrong? How can I bring him out of this ego- inflated funk and make him realize that he's pushing his wife away and I may not look back?

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You say that you know something about construction...well, then why can't you two work together in the business? Even if you don't do the actual physical labor portion, you could act in an administrative capacity, scheduling his appointments, etc. and then you would certainly know if there is really any need for a 2 a.m. "service call."

Also, working together even in a limited capacity may bring you two closer and you are striving for a joint goal and income at that point. He'll also feel you're contributing to the household if that is a possible source of his current resentment towards you.

If he is resistant to the idea of you joining him or working as a H/W team, I would find out why. Then you need to sit down and find out what is really going on.

The change in his attitude towards you, the disrespectful actions, late nights out, are all red flags to me. I first found out my H (fiance at the time) was messing around when he told me he went to get his computer fixed at midnight on a Saturday night. Yeah, right. I had called him that night on his cell at the prearranged time he told me, he was cold and acted weird and was rude to me (though at the time I didn't know why). I told him at the time he was a terrible liar because I just knew in my gut the whole computer story was fishy. I then called one of my friends and said, "I know he's with another woman" just by the way he was behaving and his bizarre cold manner towards me. Turns out I was right. He tells me now that when I outright told him he was a terrible liar, even though I didn't actually KNOW or could prove anything at that time, guilt kicked in and his heart pounded like no tomorrow.

TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. They are rarely if ever wrong in such matters. If your H has changed so drastically in a year, it's possible he's met someone who is offering him the admiration/adoration and something else he may not be getting at home. That 2 a.m. service call may be more of a booty call.

So find out what is REALLY going on, and if he's not willing to include you in his life and/or business, and work on your marriage together with a counselor, then I suggest you at least find a counselor for yourself and start a contingency plan to take care of yourself in the event things end.

Best of luck.

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Kat, I hate to say it but it sounds like Justin is messing around.

He is exhibiting the classic signs...


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