Hi you all!

Im wondering if you guys wuldent mind posting your firsttime threds, so we newbies can learn more

Marcus33....some of us have been here so long that we can't even find our firsttime threads LOL. I'm pretty sure that mine somehow got lost in one of the upgrades the forum went through because I've tried to find it and can't. I remember what it was about though....I was up in arms about the "attractive spouse" need which I thought was bogus....so it probably wouldn't help much anyway. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Star,

I remember that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Those were interesting discussions that seem to go and come for a long time, but seem to have subsided in the last few years.

I don't know if I could find my first ones either, but it was to someone else so I doubt it would help anyone here unless they want to see an amazing end to a very sad story.

If so, they need to look up "facing choices". I can't remember if it is that or "facing_choices". Nevertheless, her last post came years after the next to last one with an amazing change. Cool stuff.

JL

I remember mine very much, i've gone back and read it many times...

I am a FWW. I was pretty much at rock bottom when I found MB.

I googled "marriage prayer" and found MB.

This is my first post: requesting Prayers to learn to trust again

i suppose the title might seem odd... since i was the WW, that i needed to learn to trust again. But it made perfect sense to me. I needed to learn to trust my DH again in order to figure out how to get out of the mess i created.

thanks guys

reading mine now makes me feel so sick to my stomach!!!

I remember very well also.... this is not actually first but it is a LONG thread that goes through the day my XH found out I had called OW's parents and most of my plan A.

I want to add that I did something STUPID that although was done out of fear was also untrue to myself. You'll notice in the first post I say that XH was upset because he found out someone else told OW's family. That's what I told him. It was really me and although I told this community what had really happened, I was afraid he might come here and read that so I edited some of those first posts on this thread. Stupid. A BS's fear of any confrontation with the WS is very real and I understand it. It's one of the reasons I often post to people new to the site who are so afraid of exposure. I understand it completely and had made many mistakes because of that fear.

The faithinme story

This one is a continuation of the previous thread. It starts out showing just how manipulative a WS can be when they want to keep both BS and OP in their lives. I did a horrible plan B. It really shows in this thread.

I'm spinning so fast I can't think straight

Found the first post and thread.... here it is.

Faithinme's first post

FIM

Marcus...many times you can see some real interesting stories by looking and clicking on signature lines...some of my oldest posts are in "my story"

Good luck...

Ya know....I can't find my first posts either. I'd actually like to read them myself, show how far I've come.....because although it has been made apparent over the last several days that infidelity isn't through with me yet, I am in a much better place than I was the day I first posted (and for many months thereafter). I was absolutely out of control.

MB has helped me out immeasurably.

God Bless,

-Caren

Sorry, this 'crusty' oldie can't locate her old posts.....see how much I have posted?!?!?! Give a girl a break. LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Just know that what we post comes from the school of hard knocks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Did we make mistakes? Yes. Were we told off royally? Sometimes. Why are we still here? For some of us it is to give back some of the support given to us despite our stubborness. LOL!!! Of course, I can only speak for myself! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Just know when we encourage you to do your homework and read....it's because we know that will help you heal faster and knock a few wholes in that fog.

L.

again thanks!