Ladies

I need some ideas. My marriage is or should I say has gone flat. I need to spice up our lives, regularly and sexually.

It seems like lately me and H just arent seeing eye to eye and of course can have trouble communicating. So things are getting kind of old quick.

Anyone got any ideas.

I really dont have time to post right now, but did want to send off a quickie to you...... for me what works is the little things, yes a romantic vacation would be nice, but I love all the little things.

Those little things make us both feel like we are in each others thoughts during the day, just this morning I got up and found that my H had wrote I love you on my cig. pack, he is good at doing that writing on things or leaving notes where I least expect them, a post it on the dish soap, a cut out of a rose in my sock drawer, etc..... and yes he even leaves me a short note every single morning saying that he will be thinking of me while he is at work and missing me.

Me ok call me June Cleaver but I do greet him at the door when he comes home, with a hug and kiss...... old fashion I know but it felt great when he admitted after I had been doing it for some time, how much that means to him.

Try to find at least 10 minutes every day just for the 2 of ya to have a quiet talk. Commmuntication is very important. My heart beats faster when I hear him say something about the future, and the out of the blue compliments does us both wonders. Really listen even if it bores you to death, car talk is over my head and yawn... but I look him in the eyes and let him know I am listening, and ask questions.

Small physical contact is a constant reminder that your still desirable...... when you walk by him lightly touch him as you do, still close to each and have you leg touching his.

Here is a site that has alot of nice ideas, some for romantic games, to just let them know that you are thinking of them..... none of ideas cost alot of money and it gets the point out that you are desiring your spouse.

Hope it helps with some ideas....

http://www.lovingyou.com/

And if your the camping type, that always bring us back to bonding, something about getting away from the normal day to day pressure, the peace and quiet and just being lazy does us wonder. We always pick spots where there is no one else but us and the wolves howling at night.

Thank you for your ideas.

Dear Whitegirl,

"Me ok call me June Cleaver but I do greet him at the door when he comes home, with a hug and kiss...... old fashion I know but it felt great when he admitted after I had been doing it for some time, how much that means to him."

This means more to him than he may ever be willing to let on. It does to me.

Try your best to muster as much RESPECT for him as you can.
Even if he doesn't "deserve it". When he gets it, I suspect he will do his best to "live up to" the respect you are giving him. Beware, this may take a while for him to belive there is a "real change". Similar to Plan A thinking.

Have you read His/Needs? Love and Respect?

On a side note:

You often hear about June Cleaver, but how many women would like Ward for an H?

Would many women be willing to be more like June if they were married to Ward?