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No....and honestly I don't ever get that feeling to block posters........just that all anyone has to do is read Caren's ENTIRE THREAD to see that those words directed at her were COMPLETELY UNWARRENTED!! And I'm usually fairly liberal (oh my God..did I just say that! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ) when it comes to people's comments....knowing that context and emotion on a discussion board are sometimes lost. But this crossed a certain threshold. Plus (No this is not the start of an EA!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ) Caren is a hottie!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> MWIL
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what the H E doubletoothpicks.... is a FAIR LIBERAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> ha ha ha ha!!!!!!!!! ARK
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Don't we call our WS- infidels
UH YEAH...cause that would be TRUE.....
but I as always I do appreciate your reference to Gods judgement..
it's always so enlightening...
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Pegster-
How dare you judge me for my children. God has forgiven me for having children out of wedlock, it is not your job to pass judgement. My children were gifts from God, and I don't regret having any of them, they are beautiful and healthy and quite frankly a blessing.
2ndly, I was enrolled in college studying to be a nurse, when I was blindsided by my husband's affair.....I couldn't think to drive, couldn't eat, couldn't, for all intents and purposes function, so I had to drop out of school for the time being. So lets not act like I'm some kind of illiterate asking for handouts. My church assisted me ONE TIME in paying my rent.........and that's what they do, they help members of their congregation in times of need.
As far as jobs are concerned, Yes I was let go of my job at the hospital because I was on medical leave of absence due to my suicidal feelings, etc. I went through MONTHS of intensive outpatient counseling and was not ABLE to return to work until the program released me (Which was several months time), it wasn't covered under FMLA....so they had the legal right to do so.
Then I worked home care, being paid under the table, I was offered a job with good benefits, from someone at church, and HER boss decided not to keep me on after my 30 days, although I did show up everyday, do my work, and not cause any waves, he wouldn't give me a reason, he said he was not obligated to do so.
SO, it's not as if I'm job hopping by choice.
Pegster, you're on this board, how about you concentrate on YOUR problems.
He who is without sin may cast the first stone........can you throw one Pegster?
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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MyWifeILove,Dealan-de , Mimi, Ark, Orchid, & Pep-
I'm too tired to repsond to this tonight.....my friend and I went and played bingo (Doing that whole trying to get a life thing).
My car is at Firestone, and they're trying to figure out what's wrong with it, so I can go find a job. My Mom and Dad have a Firestone credit card, so they are using that to pay for it. Mom and Dad also have Triple-A, so they had it towed to the garage.......so that hopefully I can get down to ADC, and see if I can get some assistance, and also to the child support enforcement bureau to start my case, and then go and look for a job.
MywifeIlove- LOL about my picture again...it's all grainy and goofy looking. I looked at your pic, you're certainly nothing to sneeze at.....well cuz then you'd have snot all over you LOL!!
I tackle this in the morning!
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Caren - dear one - when you can put Pegster and like-minded posters on "ignore" without dignifying their **** with a response, you'll be ready to do a true Plan B - consider the BullS*** Surf Board as a tool for such times.
You gotta hide those buttons just a little bit better ((((HUGS))))
And it's hard because crass individuals hit when you're hurting the worst and struggling to gather your strength...
It's one of those opposition-in-all-things kind of deals.
Your friends are still with you, encouraging you, confident that you can nail this thing... So ignore Satan who stands before the throne of God, accusing you night and day. Your Savior stands between you and them - and His infinite goodness covers you - as you say, you've sought and received forgiveness.
Those who are for you are more than those who are against you! (pretend she's the OW trying to take a piece out of your confidence that you deserve respect!)
Prayers for you!
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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You're right KaylaAndy....blocking her now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
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WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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MyWifeILove,Dealan-de , Mimi, Ark, Orchid, & Pep-
I'm too tired to repsond to this tonight.....my friend and I went and played bingo (Doing that whole trying to get a life thing).
My car is at Firestone, and they're trying to figure out what's wrong with it, so I can go find a job. My Mom and Dad have a Firestone credit card, so they are using that to pay for it. Mom and Dad also have Triple-A, so they had it towed to the garage.......so that hopefully I can get down to ADC, and see if I can get some assistance, and also to the child support enforcement bureau to start my case, and then go and look for a job.
MywifeIlove- LOL about my picture again...it's all grainy and goofy looking. I looked at your pic, you're certainly nothing to sneeze at.....well cuz then you'd have snot all over you LOL!!
I tackle this in the morning!
God Bless,
-Caren My car is at Firestone, and they're trying to figure out what's wrong with it, so I can go find a job. My Mom and Dad have a Firestone credit card, so they are using that to pay for it. Mom and Dad also have Triple-A, so they had it towed to the garage.......so that hopefully I can get down to ADC, and see if I can get some assistance, and also to the child support enforcement bureau to start my case, and then go and look for a job. So Mom and Dad take care of towing your car and paying to have it fixed and ADC will hopefully help with further Financial Assistance since it doesn't appear that you're working.... Am I the only one willing to speak up and note that their is a pattern? *********EDIT********* Someone accused me of telling falsehoods in regards to an earlier post- I was just looking for you to confirm that I was telling the truth. Not did I judge YOU- I simply stated bible truths about adultry vs fornication. I'm not a bible beater, ****** I don't even believe in God- just pointing out an interesting observation. That adultry is understandably universally condemned here but our pasts are always above reporoach. Caren- I'd just like to see you work on you- without goal or focus on your WS. What do you see about yourself without a direct tie in to Mark. Please consider diverting your attention to that for a bit- that way- whatever Mark does- you're ahead of the game. And no Delande- I'm not whom you think I am. I think you are in fact a SAINT!
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That adultry is understandably universally
condemned here but our pasts are always above reporoach. ummmmmmm, shouldn't adultery be "universally" condemned? What in the world does one's unrelated past have to do with the condemnation of adultery on a website that is devoted to FIGHTING adultery? If I condemn MURDER does that mean my past bad behavior must be trotted out? by WHAT loony standard? S'plain please, because you are not making any sense...
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Well I contacted law enforcement,and I played the tape.....they said that there is really no legal action to take, that since I was participating in the conversation (i.e. saying I don't know why you're so upset) that it could be said that I was agging him on.....so fat lot of help that did, although there will be a record of the policman responding to a call at my house. I went to the library today to try to print out the PBL, but the computers were broken down. I apparently did NOT effectively block Pegster, because I can see her above post. So Mom and Dad take care of towing your car and paying to
have it fixed and ADC will hopefully help with further
Financial Assistance since it doesn't appear that you're
working.... Am I the only one willing to speak up and
note that their is a pattern? Hmmmmmm yes, Mom and Dad are taking care of towing and having my car fixed.....how do you propose I get a job with no vehicle?????? I guess I could just say screw it and live in a box. And Yes ADC is going to help me........with FOOD STAMPS, not with money. I don't want their money.....I WANT TO WORK......or maybe you'd rather they starve. I can't imagine why you're on MB Pegster.......you seem so easy to get along with. Oh and by the way Pegster..............BITE ME. God Bless, -Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Sorry got all wrapped up in Ms.HolierThanThou and forgot to tell you that I talked to my cousin (who's a lawyer for Social Security) and he said that Legal Aid does do family law so that I can contact them to get a legal separation.
I want to get child support, custody and visitation established so he can't decide to not bring her back on one of his weekends with her.
I left them a message today, hopefully they'll call back, if not, I'll be calling them on Monday.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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he said that Legal Aid does do family law so that I can contact them to get a legal separation. If you two own any property together, Legal Aide cannot help you. I tried to go through them also but since WXH and I own property, they could not help me. At least that's the way it was in my state. Just thought I give you a heads up.
Me-BxW-(36)
Him-WxH-(36)
Married 9 days short of 12 years b/f D was final
5 kids-10 and younger (3 DD & 2 DS)
WH filed for D 11/05
D final 05/06
***Of course you would DIE for your kids, the question is will you LIVE for them***
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pegsters...with all due respect...you forgot the most important part of pointing out patterns...
you offer NO solution....
your posts are full of blame and accusations....
no one would argue with find a job that grounds you
gives you steady money...
etc etc etc...
but that's NOT what you do...
you give subjective stuff about how it MAKES you feel....
you give RIDICULOUS nonsense about out of marriage sex...
which has NOTHING to do with present day behavior....
NOTHING>..
the deeds are done
the kids are HERE...why beat a dead horse...for we all have the ability to change.....
infact....I think you'd find a lot of people round here...committed to their vows who once engaged in premarital sex...
wanna start a thread to each of them ??
our pasts are NOT above reproach...but often nothing can be done to change it...ie premarital sex....obviously..
is a great example..
pergster...pointing out so called bad patterns or past behaviors can be and is helpful at times...
but offerring no support...ROOM FOR FORGIVENESS...doesn't...
the thing is if someone is truly stuck in a pattern...
they don't see it that way..
and just blurting it and throwing it at them like a weapon will never help....
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Very good post Ark....as usual <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Pegster..... can you please go post the reason why you visit here?
On this thread, Caren has posted to get some help and support. At the very least, can you respect that request?
Thanks,
L.
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Caren,
I just wanted to say hello and let you know I"m thinking about you. I will catch up on your thread more later, but know you are going through some CR*** right now. HUgs to you Caren.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Ark-
Thank you. I realize that I shouldn't have had children out of wedlock, but I didn't know the Lord then, and I do now.
I appreciate that you give constructive critism.
You make me think of things I hadn't thought of, and it's appreciated more than you know.
God Bless You,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Pepsi-
We don't own any property aside from our cars. I am currently only going to be seeking a legal separation. Our property, for all intents and purposes is already divided.
So I think Legal Aid will be able to help me.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Orchid-
Thank you for your post, I know I've made mistakes, and I am here asking for help so I can do this right this time.
I had my daughter (My older daughter) change the password on the cell phone account, so it would take a bit of work to get back into it, which I think will deter me.
I am babysitting for my great neice again this week, so I have her car, and I will be delivering my plan B letter to Mark face to face today. When I go to legal aid, I guess he'll get served with the legal separation papers (Not sure how that works).
He will, in no uncertain terms KNOW I am dead serious this time.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Hey Kimbo-
So happy to hear from you. Please E-mail me. I have been wondering how you're doing.
Please don't worry about me, I'm stronger than I've ever been and I can do this. My only fear is by the time he gets his head out of his [censored], I'll be over it.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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