I suspect your just tickled now.
Hope so, with all the effort you put forth to get it done there chief. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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Anyways,
not going to let my typed response go to waste--
so here goes nothin.



What now you want a posters "Tone" to be regulated?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
Come on, how's that suppossed to work???

So who's standard we all gonna agree upon?
Yours, mine, ML's, 2Be's?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />???

Wow, and I thought that Loving anyway stated its just a person's opinion. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

Besides,
When someone is cursed at the Mods DO do Something.
They edit or even lock a post. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Your gripe (at least today) is to take offense at the way in which someone describe an activity.

Just because you would most likely explain it in different terms,
in no way makes it an action that needs addressing by the Mods.

Besides the mods have provided you All with what you need to address the your ML problem.
Use your ignore button ......and Never be offended (at least by her) again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

For good or ill,
you can't dictate someone to meet others standards to what is polite or not.
Bottom line is your gang and ML are most likely never going to even agree on what is being blunt/honest and what is Rude or over the top.

Unfortunately,
As has been pointed out before,
notice how the focus is NOW on being PC and not on any actual issue. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
Funny how that seems to come about so often when this issue-- the rights of a BS -- comes up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Actually, I don't want a locked thread. If I were to get my WISH :P , it would be that the moderators actually enforce standard policies for behavior on these boards. Locking threads just puts off the issue...taking active measures in correcting posters who do not follow the proper behavior is what needs to happen to REALLY fix the problem.


I don't even mean politically correct...I mean act like a normal, adult person and treat everyone the way YOU would want to be treated. Don't sit there and make provoking comments simply to hurt them, help them to clearly see the problem and work through to the right solution. And if you feel that they can't/won't see the solution...don't attack, back off and either let someone else get the point across or trust the Lord to handle it.

Hopefully the focus isn't on being politically correct...it'll hopefully be on addressing the problems, and not attacking the people.

This isn't rocket science...I know, I used to work on rockets.

Exactly. Like deja vu all over again.

What's the definition of insanity? Something like: executing the same action over and over, expecting a different result?

Mel's "blunt" approach with 2B didn't change 2B's mind the first time... or the second time... or the third time they had this go-around.

So the fact that she's using the same "blunt" approach yet again can lead to only one of two conclusions (that I can think of at the moment).

(1) Mel is insane.

(2) She's not really trying to help 2B or change her mind.... since it would be "insane" to expect a different outcome using the same failed approach yet again... leaving us to guess at her real motivation.

--SC

P.S. If you don't want attention diverted from the "actual issue"... simply don't provide anyone with the material (in this case, inflamatory remarks) to use for the purpose of diversion. It's that simple.

Cool.

.......but does anyone really get along anywhere, when coming at a subject from such diverse points of view.

I make Huge allownances when dealing with a topic as Extreme as this one.
Emotions running High on all sides and perspectives, no doubt

Anyway,
gotta run off and be productive .....hang in there, much of what you have to say is very useful. later

Oh please, the only thing "insane" on this thread is your ridiculous assertion that is based on wrongheaded ASSUMPTIONS. I am not using an "approach" to "reach" 2BNormal, that is how I EXPRESS MY PERSONALITY. I am expressing my opinion in the manner of my own STYLE, in response to her rationalizations. Just because she lathers at the mouth at my posts, does not mean my posts are "not working,"it means she is AVERSE to anyone who is honest with her and does not accept her silly, insane rationalizations.

All of these hysterics are based on my response to her nutty statement that it would "harm" the OMW if she told her the truth about the affair:

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Too funny!!!


I just wanted you to know, Owl... you're not alone in your opinion. I'm practically biting through my tongue right now. I don't post here anymore because of it.

Thank you. That's exactly what I thought.
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

SC...

PLEASE tell me that you aren't refering to Mel's remarks as "inflammatory" or ones that are being used "for the purpose of diversion"...

If so, um...NO WAY!!! Her remarks were dead on the money as far as just exactly what goes down in a PA, and you should know that...A truly remorseful and repentant FWS is NOT offended at all by what Mel said, because they KNOW that she speaks the TRUTH of who they once were and what they once did...It's only offensive to those who have yet to fully repent...sigh...

IT IS THE AFFAIR THAT IS OFFENSIVE!!!

Mrs. W

P.S. Sorry I haven't been around to help you out Mel...Looks like you've really needed your waders around here today...

Mrs W...

You wouldn't consider this as inflammatory?

And perhaps I should just patter doublespeak and blow smoke up every foggy person's [censored] so they can feel nice about rationalizing sleazy behavior? How do you figure that would help anyone?

Political correctness is never very effective and only helps people stay deluded. Thank goodness this is not a board that promotes political correctness,[a form of dishonesty] but a healthy dose of the truth.

I think we can agree that affair sex is about as romantic as pigs rutting in the pig pen. It's intended purpose was to inflict a cold splash of water on a fogged out person who is rationalizing her sleazy behavior.

Actually, the most offensive part of that statement is that it is insulting to PIGS. PIGS do not commit adultery, HUMANS DO. So, my apologies to PIGS everywhere.

Now, if 2Bnormal were as "recovered" as she claims to be, she would agree that her adulterous behavior was very PIGGISH and very sleazy.She would be more offended by her BEHAVIOR than by the words used to describe it, but she's NOT.

No Owl, I do not...Mel's words are actually prettier than what I did...Suffice it to say that my ACTIONS were FAR WORSE and TRULY OFFENSIVE...So there ya go, a FWW who actually REALIZES just how very offensive that her behavior WAS...

Mrs. W

Wow! Worse than pig rutting huh? Guess you got me beat!


Everything about my affair WAS offensive to ALL involved. Whoever said that I thought my affair was NOT OFFENSIVE? I am only reading posters make assumptions. I am horrified by my actions! FOR THE RECORD, I AM A FWW THAT REALIZES THAT HER ACTIONS WERE TRULY OFFENSIVE!!! (and I'll add piggish and sleazy too!)...

So can we stop this?

2BNormal, then why all the hysteria? If you agree that affairs are offensive, then what is this all about?

and please, can we STOP insulting PIGS?? Shame on me for demeaning them! They did nothing to deserve it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

It's all about trying to do the right thing Mel. Can't you see that?

I've gotta run and make dinner for my wonderful husband...

No 2B, that is where you are wrong...Betrayal is betrayal...What you did is just as bad as what I did...And YES, it is WORSE than a pig rutting, because as I understand it, pigs don't enter into marriage, therefore, they don't commit adultery...You and I both did...It's unfortunate that you don't see just how very offensive that it is...

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Can we stop this? Well, 2B, as has been pointed out, numerous times, it is you that continues "this"...It is you that continues in the denial...It is you that continues with the rationalizations and justifications...It is you that continues to be tortured by YOUR ACTIONS and INACTIONS...It is you that continues to come here and try and get someone to tell you that not telling your VICTIM is okay...It's not 2B, even if you were to get someone here to say it was, it still wouldn't be...Your situation is truly very sick and sad...

Mrs. W

Mel 4:08 p.m.:
Mel 4:35 p.m.:
Oh. I get it now.

It wasn't an approach, but it did have an intended purpose.

You weren't trying to reach 2B, just trying to inflict a cold splash of water on her.

Thanks for clarifying. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

NO, I do not. Getting hysterical when someone describes your affair in blunt terms is not about doing the right thing. Refusing to tell your victim what you have done is NOT about doing the right thing.

Glad to clear that up for ya! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I'm sorry you feel this way. I can't change how you feel or anyone else on this board feels. I will no longer be posting regarding my situation. Thank you.