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I am new to this site, but I wanted to pass along my hopes and prayers for you along with all of the others here. I know I'm both new and really in no place to give advice, but I have always found strength in 2 phrases that I grew up with in church.
1. God will NEVER give you more than he knows you can handle.
2. That which does not kill me, only makes me stronger.
I hope these simple words can be of even the smallest comfort to you. All the best from a brother in arms.
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MM,
To me you are the man that I know here from your typewritten words, views, expressions....
Too bad you can't print out everything you have ever typed out here and hand that to the Judge along with the rest of your lawyer's case work.
I believe that would speak volumes.
Anyway, I do wish you the BEST of blessings and hope that you prevail in every way at your hearing.
Plank.
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St. Theresa's Prayer:
May today there be peace within.
May you trust God that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.
May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you....
May you be content knowing you are a child of God....
Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.
It is there for each and every one of us.
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i'm sorry mortarman
my H and i attempted recovery for 8 months before he left....long before i found this website
neither one of us did the right things...we didn't know how to heal
is there no more chance for the two of you to work things out? All things are possible, I guess? But right now, it is not even on the radar. My wife is intent on destroying me. In His arms.
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MM,
I apologize for I, too, thought you were in recovery. I appreciate your threads on the roles of husbands and wives. You have an incredible view and understanding on marriage and love. It's so unfortunate that your wife didn't share same.
God has blessed you. Your postings have impacted many lives and many relationships. It is unfortunate that you have experienced such pain, but through the pain, God is using you. Not easy to remember when you are in this situation.
Please remember that God is with you. Remember the poem "Footprints". God has you in His arms. Feel his grace. Feel his love. Gain strength from His presence in your life. He will see you through.
You remain in my prayers.
SS SoulSurvivor...thanks! In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Mortar-
I would like to explain my "Rock" comment on my previous post.
I am very aware that Jesus is my rock, but I have always felt that God was leading me to your wisdom. You are a very wise man, and I believe the Lord speaks through you....you have never steered me wrong.
I know that throughout the Bible good people are put through trials, perhaps to test their faith, I believe this is probably the case with you. But you are strong in your relationship with God, and he will bring you through this.
I have always thought that Mrs.Mortarman was a very lucky woman to have such a strong spiritual leader for a husband, I can't believe she is throwing that away.
You are a good man, and those are a rarity.
I'm sorry for what you're going through, but I know the Lord will bring you through this, and that he has great plans for you.
In God's Love,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
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Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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One thing to remember as you say your prayers - for your children's sake - that they were His before they were yours. He loves them. He wants them raised in light. Let's pray that the judge is faithful and filled with that same light! KaylaAndy, Thanks. I remember a few years ago, in the beginning of this mess, someone asked me "do I trust God with my kids?" And the answer at the time was "no." Because I had left on deployment and had prayed continually that he protect my wife and family. But as soon as I was gone, the Evil One entered my home. And destroyed it. So, for the longest time, I was angry with God for allowing this...for not protecting them. It took me a long time to get past that. And so, I do have to remember that He does indeed love them more than I do. It is hard to let go when I see them being sucked into this mess. After what their own mother has done to them...it is hard for me to trust anyone with them. But you are right...they are His! In His arms.
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MM... you said you were out of ammo...not so...you have hired your "ammo" in the form of a qualified attorney with whom you have shared both your saga and your faith.
Let your faith in God, and your faith in your attorney carry you through this mighty battle. One does not have to swing a sword or pull a trigger to be a soldier in the Lord's army.
Peace and grace for you,
SD SD...thanks! It is so against my infantryman's nature to not be swinging something!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> It is very hard for me to be patient and/or be still. In His arms.
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MM,
I will be where you are in about 7 weeks and know exactly how you are feeling. My WW is still as crazy and addicted as the day I found out about her A with a lunatic, Sex addict, OCD, serial cheater, etc.
Know from someone who will be watching and making a special effort to pray for you and your children that are being thought of an lifted up!
God Bless you and your children... I pray that yours will have a better ending. Thanks again. In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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MM, you're in my thoughts and prayers tonight. Find peace, rather than fight. You are in Good Hands. Peace. Just for awhile, I would love that. In His arms.
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MM
for all the loving advice you have given and all the difference that you have made to others in need.....you deserve a loving gift from God
i hope that you get it soon Thanks! I would love something from Him at this time. Not because I deserve it. But just because I am His. In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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MM... you said you were out of ammo...not so...you have hired your "ammo" in the form of a qualified attorney with whom you have shared both your saga and your faith.
Let your faith in God, and your faith in your attorney carry you through this mighty battle. One does not have to swing a sword or pull a trigger to be a soldier in the Lord's army.
Peace and grace for you,
SD Thanks again, SD. After fighting for so long, it is hard to just sit. It is all I know now. In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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MM,
Steady as she goes mister. You will make the best of the situation NO MATTER what it turns out to be. I think you are strong enough to handle anything. I always hope for our judicial system if not faith in it.
God Bless,
JL Thanks JL. I am trying to remain steady. It is hard with artillery raining down around you. Hard to hear...hard to think. I just need some quiet...just a few hours to catch my breath. But satan is not letting up. He is increasing his attack. I could go on and on with the things that have happened just in the last 12 hours. You folks would not believe it. The next 24 probably will be filled with even more. Just an hour of quiet. Of the doubts out of my head. Of the visions of what might be out of my head. I just need time to reload. In His arms.
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Be true to yourself ... you have already won!
Pep Thanks Pep. I know the end is assured. I know the Evil One has already lost. I know my kids will always know what I have done for them. I know that I did the right thing, no matter what happens. It is just not acceptable for her to get custody after all she has done to them. It is not a viable outcome. In His arms.
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MM -
I will be praying for you, brother. You have guided me, like so many others here, through this Helll. I appreciate your guidance, and now I will be on my knees for you.
You and Bob helped me believe that justice belongs to God. What an awesome feeling - to know that God is just! What could I possibly do!?!? If GOD HIMSELF is taking care of the vengeance part - I can rest knowing that it is IN HIS ARMS. He has given me PEACE that even bewilders those that are close to me.
I do not know if that makes sense, or helps. But it sure gave me peace when you and Bob and others helped me to understand it.
This warrior is on his knees for you.
In his arms, for sure.
far Thanks Far...I do know that justice and vengeance belong to Him. And I dont even seek myself being an agent of that vengeance anymore. I have been well past that for awhile. But I do want to see it happen. I want to see justice come to those that are destroying my kids and me...or at least attempting to. I want to see justice come to those that believe that it is okay for me and the kids to be apart. In His arms.
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God's blessings on you and your children, MM. Thank you Faithful! In His arms.
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And I do appreciate it. Thanks UVA! In His arms.
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My dear MM,
Your future may seem shakey but your faith isn't. Trust where the stablility lies in your life.
Know that it will seem the evil will win but in the end it never does. Never.
Sending you hugz and support from the middle of the deep blue.
Orchid. Thanks Orchid! It has been a long battle. I am tired. In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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There was a man who was asleep one night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light and the Savior appeared. The Lord told the man He had a work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might. This the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sun up to sun down, his shoulders set squarely against the cold, massive surface of the unmoving rock pushing with all his might. Each night the man returned to his cabin sore and worn out, feeling that his whole day had been spent in vain. Seeing that the man was showing signs of discouragement, Satan decided to enter the picture placing thoughts into the man's mind such as; "You have been pushing against that rock for a long time and it hasn't budged. Why kill yourself over this? You are never going to move it? etc."
Thus, giving the man the impression that the task was impossible and that he was a failure.
These thoughts discouraged and disheartened the man even more. "Why kill myself over this?" he thought. "I'll just put in my time, giving just the minimum of effort and that will be good enough." And that he planned to do until one day he decided to make it a matter of Prayer and take his troubled thoughts to the Lord.
"Lord" he said, "I have labored long and hard in your service, putting all my strength to do that which you have asked. Yet, after all this time, I have not even budged that rock a half a millimeter. What is wrong? Why am I failing?"
To this the Lord responded compassionately, "My friend, when long ago I asked you to serve me and you accepted, I told you that your task was to push against the rock with all your strength, which you have done. Never once did I mention to you that I expected you to move it. Your task was to push. And now you come to me, your strength spent, thinking that you have failed. But, is that really so? Look at yourself. Your arms are strong and muscled, your back brown, your hands are callused from constant pressure, and your legs have become massive and hard.
Through opposition you have grown much and your abilities now surpass that which you used to have. Yet you haven't moved the rock.
BUT YOUR CALLING WAS TO BE OBEDIENT, TO PUSH AND TO EXERCISE YOUR FAITH AND TRUST IN MY WISDOM. This you have done. I, my faithful servant, will now move the rock."
Feel your strength, O citizen of heaven and rejoice. FF...this puts it all in perspective. Thanks! In His arms.
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MM,
I am praying for you...don't know how the Big Guy intends to handle this, but I do believe that, when an earthly judge hears your story and how your WW messed around on you while you were defending all of us and our way of life as Americans, he will be none too pleased....
Biggest hugs and prayers your way,
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