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Yes, MM. It does help explain where you're coming from.
I agree that her actions caused great harm. I don't make judgments about rebellion against God. That's between her and God, for me.
More importantly, though, I don't have the bitter edge of anger and frustration and fury that comes through when you write about it. I don't have the blame and the finger-pointing.
Those things are causing -you- harm, MM. Perhaps they impede your relationship with Jesus? I know that some of the things Wayne Dyer wrote would seem to indicate that. I don't know if that's right, though. I do know that it is something that would be healthier to heal from rather than hanging onto.
It takes quite a bit of time to choose to heal rather than to hang on to the anger and rage. The first step is to really look at it, really accept it, really feel it -- and then feel the loss and agony underneath.
Sunny Day, Sweeping The Clouds Away...
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MM,
I was wondering how u r doing. Despite all that has been thrown against you and your family, it is good to hear from you. Tough love isn't easy.....it's not suppose t/b.
Keep up the good work.
take care,
L.
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Hello Mortarman:
I was just directed to your post by _AD_, because he said that you and I seem to be in a very similar situation re custody. I have a potentially very adversial custody case coming up. I've only had the oppportunity to read the last couple of pages of your post, but I understand that you have just gone through a very tough custody case yourself.
As I was reading about your struggles, one of the things that struck me was your statement somewhere that you are at peace with yourself because in your heart you know you did what you had to do to try to preserve your marriage and do what is right for your children. This struck me because I've basically promised myself and my family the same thing: I will do anything humanly possible to try to save my marriage. If it can't be done, I will do anything I can to protect my children and do what's best for them.
Anyway, if at all possible, I would like to invite you to come and have a look at my post "I feel crushed" in the GQ II section. Maybe there's some information you're willing to share. If not, no hard feelings.
I wish you peace...
V V, Sorry I missed this. I will take a look. Standing in His Presence
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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