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Let's make t his simple...... we are here to.......
1. Get help
2. Give support
3. Share ideas
4. Pass along good recipes
5. Be a troll
6. Make trouble
7. Make trouble go away
8. Learn from others
9. Help others learn
I am sure there are more. We are all here for a reason. If the reason is with good intentions and not to stir up trouble, then most of the time there c/b something of value we can use. For the stuff that isn't valuable for us (make individual application here), my advice..... throw it out.
Learn, grow, apply, support. That's a cycle that will never end. No matter how long we post here.
For those who have been here a long time..... your patient posting is appreciated. Expressions of thanks periodically sound..... know that not all can say thanks.... but that's ok. We keep plugging along.
For newbies, know that today will be easier tomorrow and that there is a tomorrow. Make lemonade out of life's lemons and do NOT allow the WS to bring you down.
You all have valuable and precious hearts. Cherish it and help others. There's a famous saying about more happiness in giving than in receiving. That s/b evident no matter what religion you may or may not be.
Bottom line: Remember why each of us are here. Then work from that perspective.
JMHO,
L.
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Orchid-
You are very wise! I always appreciate your input and insight.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Orchid,
Its posts like this one that brought me into this forum ealier this week. The well thought, and organized outpouring of careing and concern for those of us who are hurting is the most heartfelt thing I have ever seen.
I hope that as I find light at the end of the tunnel, whatever that light may be (hopefully reconciliation), that I will also be able to give of myself to lift the heart, mind, and spirit of others who will unfortunately go through the same life events.
27/BS
26/FWW/WW
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Deployed 22.5 months
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Thank you for your replies and support. It is better to give than to receive. Forgot to mention about the trolls..... u can LB and RB the trolls all you want. LOL!!! Re: they deserve it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> L.
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Hi, Orchid! I hope that I find you well.
I love you're post, and I respect your wisedom. Thank you for the post and for sticking around MB.
You and I haven't posted together I don't think but I value the help and insights that you have given to others.
What class I see every day that I'm on MBers. You're top notch!
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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Thank you Orchid, You have given me great insight and clear advice recently. This forum, this place, makes me feel sane and helps me to keep it together and to smile <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />. It readies me to kick butt. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />Posts like this one always show me that support is but a 'click' away.
Me-BS-38
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Divorced April 2009
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your one of the sole reasons i stayed on this site. your wisdom is far beyond what i thought any human can have, your godsent for all you help.....thanks for your personal support with me as well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Do you have any great potluck recipes?
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Make lemonade out of life's lemons and do NOT allow the WS to bring you down. *ahem, cough, cough* The wonderful, wonderful thing about MB is that it's for "building marriages to last a lifetime". If I hadn't come here as an FWW, I hate to think what would have happened to my marriage. So, I'll add another item: We're here to save and build our marriages, BS and WS alike.
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Hello Orchid!
Thanks for the help and support you gave me.
I am just still learning.
d-Day- jan2006
Me 38, WH, 36
Children-8 and 10
status: slow, slow, recovery...
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1 and 8 are the area I'm in and the more I read the more I learn.
To the ones who don't see me and my frustration as being a troll, THANK YOU for your understanding as I feel like I'm in a maze that keeps changing.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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We are here:
to listen
to vent
to ask questions
to seek answers
to discuss
to debate
to validate
to challenge
to cry
to commiserate
to uplift
to laugh
to soothe
to escape lonliness
to pass the time
to avoid working
to explore
to face fear
to confess
to find direction
And to (((((((((((orchid)))))))))))
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I was here to avoid doing laundry...actually...
and unloading the dishwasher...I always hate doing that..
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We are here to...
Try to help others find their way, without all the mistakes we (I) made in going through the same journey.
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
***You can do anything with time and money...but remember...money won't buy you time!***
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Yea....well I hate housework so I take lots of MB breaks. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Folding clothes late at night and posting on MB. What a combo!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> L.
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((((((((((((((ORCHID))))))))))))))
XBW
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PLAN D: finalized!
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I am here to boss others around <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I am here because I am spying on Pepperband! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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To avoid actually doing any work while at work! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Who
I am the BW,
He is the FWH
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