My relationship of 16yrs and marriage of 9yrs ended approx. 5yrs ago........EX wanted it, not me.

Anyhow, Im remarried to a wonderful woman, and now have a child on the way. I never thought I was going to get married again....Didnt want to, but then something wonderful passed my way. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

My wife now was married to a serial cheater, so we had the wayward spouse thing in common.

Anyone else here remarried (successful marriage)???

i am not remarried but would like to get married again SOMEDAY... not in a huge rush! and hopefully i will do it right next time!

mlhb

If you read my other posts, you'll see that I am a second wife that worries about hubby still thinking of / missing his first wife. I'm curious, StartinOver, why you still think enough about your ex to be posting on here?

I'm curious to hear anything you have to say, as a remarried man. Would you go back to #1 if you could? If you could wave a magic wand and make everything the way you wanted it, would you make everything right with #1 and give up #2?

Mr. Ragamuffin and I just celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary July 10th! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Newlywed grandpa and grandma is what we call ourselves as we have a combined total of 7 grandkids ages 8 and under. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

The ex is shacking up with someone who has also caught him cheating! Go figure!

I wasn't going to get married again either. My husband said I was wearing a coat of armor and he had a welder! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> He is a GOOD man and I do believe we are a success, our adult children think so too!

Congratulations on your marriage and the little one on the way!

I don't take his post that way at all!

SIP you'll eat your current marriage alive by worrying about your husband's thought's of his "former" wife. I haven't read your story, I'll go back and read your posts.

It doesnt bother me to answer this in noway at all. I stumbled across this site once my 1st marriage was over.......I just like reading all of the threads that sounds exactly like my EX. I had no idea that there were tons, tons of people going thru the exact same thing until I ran across this site. Most people that have affairs sound EXACTLY alike. I never knew this. I guess I would have posted and asked questions and all that during my 1st marriage when things were going down hill. It just so happens it was over before I found this site. So, I guess I just enjoy reading and learning from MY past mistakes in my 1st marriage and using alot of this information to build a strong 2nd marriage. I post past information so people know where I came from and since I also have kids by my 1st, Im constantly dealing with her almost daily.

To answer your other question.........NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! I would not go bck to my EX for nothing. I realize after being married to my 2nd wife, that my EX and I disagreed on way to many issues. My wife now is a much more pleasant person, and is not very hard to please at all. My EX thought she was Cleopatra or something. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

The only good thing that came out of my first marriage were my kids.......my own family cant stand my EX. They all actually talked to me after the divorce and said they never liked her.....they thought she was high maintenance and rude to them.

I hope Ive cleared up a few things for ya. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

StartinOver,

Thanks for your prompt response. My darling hubby says things quite similar to what you've said.


Many good wishes and congratulations, and God Bless you and your new family.

Thanks.....anytime.

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Congrats to you also.

Like you, startinover, I married a lovely man and we're having a child together.

He has two children from his previous marriage, and like you, says they're the only good things to come of it. Like you, his parents (and even the family priest, who refused to marry them) didn't like or approve of his former spouse.

You almost sound like my husband, but I'm quite certain you're not!

Best of luck to you!

Startin over, congratulations and double on the new one to come into this world. I was married for 25 years and my X decided to have an affair. We have 4 children (adult children now) and the divorce was very hard on them. Once you get over the past, you never get over it totally, but you can move on. That is exactly what you did, move on and someone came along your path.

I too, decided after my divorce that I would never trust a man again. I gave my whole heart to my X and I was not going to do that again. Well, I met this wonderful man that came to my house to paint the exterior of my house, and fix the trim. The house was built by my X and I and X never had 2 coats put on the Tll siding. The trim was dry rotted in areas and this painter went through the whole outside and did a wonderful job. As he and his men were fixing my house outside, I was inside trying to set some doors. H never put doors on the 2 bedrooms upstairs. I got the doors free from a house being torn down. I was having problems and the guy asked if he could help me. He set the doors that day. The next day, he did the router thing for the handle and the part that goes into the opening for the fixture to come out to close the door. He was so patient and showed me some techniques to working with wood. Then he showed me how to do the baseboard. For I had the big areas done and was stuck on an angle that I couldn't figure out, it was not a normal angle.

Needless to say, a few weeks later he took me out to a nice dinner and asked me what I would like to eat, I told him fish, and it was a wonderful fish restaurant. We still are seeing each other, for he has his own business, and I am going to school fulltime and working parttime. We talk daily probably x3 and just taking it very slow. I told him I need plenty of time to heal and to move on. I dated a few other guys, but there were red flags. With this guy I am open, when I see something that could be a little red flag or an alert, I will talk to him about it. We will talk and there is none of this controlling dictatorship going on. He listens, and I can tell he really is listening.

Yes, moving on and then possibly marriage is there for all of us to choose. Just good to hear a wonderful moving on story and when you talk about your X, you are not talking in a manner that you want her back. Just that you two have children together and history. Thank you for a wonderful outcome....Blessings....LoveinHim

So... what makes a good second marriage?

What makes any marriage good? Its the same things.....whether its a first marriage, 2nd or god forbid the 19th.

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Thanks.....I also love to hear stories as your own. We all want our marriages to make it, but sometimes there is nothing you can do to salvage the marriage. What happens afterwards??? You can live on and be a better single person, or you CAN chose to remarry. I just thank god I was able to move on without much drama. Oh did I mention that I love my wife??? Well, I do. Very much. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

God Bless You!