well...the xws is at it again...doing and saying things that aren't well...so good for being a father.

and he had my ds in tears crying unconsolably for 30 minutes on tuesday evening and wednesday evening this week.

I've had it with him.

No more MS. NICE PEACH.

am retaining a new attorney. docs I work with recommend one who got full custody from his wife (cheated) and said he's an "arrogant [censored] who can handle the most arrogant of arses they come up against"...he's perfect!

we're going after him again. gonna take it slow, unless he pulls another stunt like he did this week...and then we'll slam down hard and waste no time. this time enlist help of an attorney recommended private eye to dig into xh's recent past and his behaviors of 2005 and this year...some interesting stuff we think lies there...especially since I know that domestic violence unit was called out to his and ow's townhome last summer several times...among the other things I know of...

and we're gonna probably right before we slam down, the new ow, the 21 year old, who flaunted her immorality in front of face of my ds last summer when daddy lived in a hotel room and placed ow in adjoining room to them. sick huh?

this may take six mos to compile...

but need prayers.

I will not deal with a bully. I will not deal with a man who threatens children and women. I am DONE with him.

And he's gonna know what it feels like to "take it and smile"...as I've done for 2 years now.

NO MORE DEALING WITH A BULLY.

He's crossed line last time.

I've been good with being a nice and sweet and encouraging co parent. I've done an awesome job. I have been flexible with him for visitation (although I have a tad more time with ds than xwh does and we have joint)...I have been good...very very good...why? BECAUSE THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME..IT IS ABOUT MY DS...

and the decision to retain the new attorney and pursue a modification in custody is BECAUSE THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME...IT IS ABOUT MY DS.

prayers as I begin this journey again.

...add a {{{hug}}} to that list and u got it from me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

Maybe you could alternatively petition for the right to move pretty far away from XH thus necessitating a primary physical and legal custody determination. All the same issues would be relevant to the court in their determination to allow you to make such move. Then with primary you can more easily and readily withhold access to DS based upon YOUR determination of his best interest.

I'm no divorce attorney...just jotting down a quick idea.

Prayers for your success, I believe you personally could benefit tremendously by disentangling from XH as well.

Happy mom = Happy child
Unhappy Mom & morally bankrupt Dad = Unhappy child

Mr. W

Peach,

I have a good mind to come over there and .....okay I'll slow down, but man do I hate a bully!!

I admire your resolve and your recognition that this is about your wonderful son's future and not about "getting back" at your ExH. I always find your comments to be so true to point and helpful all the while not void of empathy.

Work your plan and then nail him and know that we will keep you in our prayers.

God bless you and your son.

PS speaking of Karma (I prefer reaping and sowing) it sure is starting to make an appearance in my situation which I will update later, but suffice it to say fantasy land is starting to implode a little at a time.

((((Peach))))

Good suggestion. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

thank you guys.

thanks alot MR.W...for that spot of wisdom.

want thoughts and more karma/prayers as xws did something yet again last night...seems he's having an affair again on his affair wifey...not that it ever stopped I suppose.

I am sick of seeing what is happening to my ds around that man.

think in a couple of weeks, after this whole disney trip he's doing (imagine a serial cheater taking his children to fantasyland...perfect!)I will see if the new attny wants to hire a pi...i will have to time it just sooo perfectly though.

((( Peachy ))) ((( Peachy ds )))

You got my prayers, sweetie. And, don't worry about that old thing called karma.... that is the beauty of it --

We don't have to do a darn thing --

they get their's !!

every time - sooner or later

one way or another

But, since this involves your precious son --

Do everything you can to protect him and you.

Sending hugs, carnation