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During the time that you confronted your WS about Infidelity, established NC w/ OP, established and enforced boundaries did you continue SF or stop until these issues were addressed?
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In my case I found out about the A after the PA component had effectively ended. SF slowed down for awhile, but didn't stop.
I have no doubt that, if SF continued between the OM and my FWW after D-Day, I would not have engaged in SF with her.
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sexual fulfillment ... it's how one of the fundamental ENs is expressed here ....... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> oops I mean SF is what Harley calls marital sex jeeze .... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />the way I wrote this made it seem like we were having .... nevermind
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I put no because, get this, my WW said she didn't want to feel like a slut.
Moral of the Mayonnaise Jar: Do you want a full life? Or just sand? --------------------------------------------------------------- BS: Me: 33 WS: 32 Married 10 years Affair Started: May 06 Exposure: July 06 Daughter 4 years Son 2 years
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Thanks Pepperband for noting what SF stands for.
Thanks everyone for your votes. Just wanting to get some info here.
LLG=Living, Learning, Growing formerly reallyconcerned
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Like ManInMotion, the PA part had ended, I did do STD tests, and SF did slow, but we did continue.
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While in that 'phase' of recovery there was no SF for us.
H wanted it to continue, but I just couldn't manage it emotionally...I asked for too many details in discovery and that da#n movie played round and round in my head.
We couldn't manage SF well until I learned to shut the movie off.
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I am the FWW. SF never stopped. The A had been over for 6 months when d-day occurred. I think we had SF that night and every night for the next 6 months.
3 years later we're down to every 2nd night. Sometimes I think it might be every 3rd night.
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When I discovered that my husband was having an affair, it took a few days but after that it was unbelievable!!!
We had SF more than ever...............This went on for approx. 2-3 years. It has calmed down abit.
I had plenty of movies going through my mind and I'm more than sure that this behaviour has a pyscological explanation. My urge for SF was so high.........it was as if I had just met my husband..........
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H had 3 month affair/D-d January 2001
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Recovered and moving on and we're looking forward to the years ahead!
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Blondblossom When I discovered that my husband was having an affair, it took a few days but after that it was unbelievable!!! BTW that is a cute nic. Did it sort of turn you on knowing that he had an A?
LLG=Living, Learning, Growing formerly reallyconcerned
Trying to stop fearing and start living
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kids, yes
1 D-day 8/2003, 2nd D-day 1/2006
Current status:
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