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I have two of Stormie's books: Power of a Praying Wife and Just Enough Light for the Step I'm On... and years ago we began a study ... this part of MB got pretty busy (and prayerful) and then we all just sorta fizzled out and went our separate ways.

Is anyone interested in beginning again?

I don't have a ton of time and I've really felt so far away from God for such a long time... so I wouldn't feel comfortable leading this... but I'd love to participate and see what God can do in my life.

Anyone else?

ETA: Changed title to reflect study has begun! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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NBII,

Hi there! Would love to do a study on this. I remember we had done it when I first came on here & that book helped me so tremendously. Think it would be great to do again!


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Hey Ladies,

It does my heart good to hear you all talk about doing the study again. My wife was telling me just today that God told her to open that book and begin reading it. She stopped and said; "If you really want me to do that, make the book easy to find." I bought the book about 3 or 4 years ago and she never really took an interest (she was full on in her A at the time), so no telling where the book was. She looked down at the bookshelf she was standing next to and there it was. The funny thing is, I always kept all three of those books together (POPH, POPW and POPParent) in another room, not in that bookshelf. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

So she took it, wondering where she should start and the book had a bookmark in it on chapter seven "Praying for His Mind" So she read the chapter and right before she got to the prayer, she said a prayer and then read the prayer in the book.

The reason she told me about it was because I told her things were going through my head my last few Sundays at work.

It's amazing what God does when you need it, with the ones you need it from. I'm so glad that she's in a better frame of mind to hear Him now. Tough to hear from God in the fog.

Anyway for what it's worth, I'm proud to hear you all trying to start it up again. You know it's easier for us guys to "get it" when our wives are praying for us.

Praying that God is blessing you both.

In His Arms.

S&C


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Hi ST and S&C,

Yes, I really want to do this...

Y, Which book would you like to begin with? POPW? Either one is fine with me... and think about how much you'd like to read a day, a week, or whatever is convenient and won't burn you out quickly... no pressure...

For me... I guess a chapter a week would be good...

Hope others will join us but I'm perfectly happy with just the two of us... if that's how it ends up.

Let me know what you think...

(Thanks for the hello and words of encouragement, S&C -- you are welcome any time, even though you're a dude! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />)



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**bump for anyone else who might want to join us?**

I'm thinking of beginning next week... and may just write my thoughts no matter what <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.



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hello guys, count me in!


dday aug 05
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he left preggy ow end of oct 05 and stayed with us since then

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Hi Denise!

Do you have the book? I was sort of waiting for ST to return before I began... and then I've been having some issues here that need to be dealt with and I just haven't begun the book...

But now you're here...

If you will give me this weekend to get myself (and my issues) collected, I would love to begin.

How's that for you?



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I would like to join in as well. I"ve been somewhat detached and away from God too the last few months. Its really a shame as my faith is what has kept me strong but as things got better in my M I didn't keep up with my walk. I've been thinking about this since this past weekend when my FWH told me that he really felt like he was closer to God than he had ever been just before the A started, and that he didn't understand why it didn't stop him from giving in to her flirting... I told him it was obvious that the Devil was scared that he had lost him and had to show him his power. FWH said he never thought of that but did agree. Sadly, I said he not only got you but pulled me back away as well.

So, I would love to be a part of this and like most, don't have a lot of time but would do my best to participate as much as possible.


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Hi Annie, and welcome!

Okay, so we're doing Power of a Praying Wife?

If so, (and I'm assuming that's so <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />)... let's begin reading on Monday (Chapter 1) and I'll begin writing some thoughts as soon as I can. I'm really hoping to do a chapter a week, but might not be able to.

Anyone else feel FREE to step in, begin a convo on your own, lag behind or run ahead... no pressure for anyone, okay?

See you and let's begin praying earnestly for our H's!



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I have read through the other threads that discussed this book... and I'm sure we'll cover a lot of the same ground. I'm hoping that others of you will chime in ... and even if you don't have the book... you can comment on the comments <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

Please let me know if I go to slow, too fast, or anything else.

Here are my thoughts on the Introduction (the Power):

  • POPW is not about gaining control over your husband.

    I'm a control freak. I haven't yet begun this praying for my H in earnest, and honestly it scares me a little. I want to control the situations in our life -- and truthfully, I haven't been able to, so it's a futile thing anyway. What a waste of time and energy! I have another book (Christian) by another author that I can't remember right now (I'm at work writing on my lunch hour)... it's called The Control Trap. What a reality check THAT book was! Yipes. I need to let go of controlling many aspects of my life... but mostly, let go of my H to be the man God wants him to be... and love, support and uplift him even when he makes mistakes. Scary.
  • POPW is for a wife to *do* right more than *be* right.

    I love this concept. I want to be right, true enough... but to DO right takes an effort that I hadn't realized before I read this comment. Praying is doing.
  • Praying for your husband is NOT the same as praying for your children. We have authority over our children - not our husbands.

    Isn't this interesting? I'd NEVER considered this before. I'm still digesting what I think this means... will be back with comments later.
  • A wife's prayer for her husband will have far greater effect on him than anyone else's, even his mother's. There is strength in the UNION of husband and wife and the sum of that strength is greater than each individual.

    Isn't this the COOLEST thing? We are a UNIT... as ONE. Wow.
  • Even if your husband does not pray for you, your prayers for him will spill onto you and your family.

    Nice... plus, it makes sense that when I am praying, lifting up my H, even when he does make boo-boos in judgement, that MY HEART will be softer toward him (instead of ripping his head off - which I normally don't do, but occasionally, I admit it, I have.). For that reason ALONE it will bring POSITIVE results.



Okay, those are my thoughts about the Introduction...

Any thoughts?

I'll be back to discuss Chapter One (His Wife) soon...



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Uhhhhmmmmm.

Hi.

Can I read along even if I don't have the book, am not married, am not Christian, and even the title of the book kinda weirds me out? Because, well, I respect NBII a whole lot and I figure if she thinks something is worthwhile, I should listen a while before I run screaming away with the "ohmigod I've got COOTIES AGAIN" feeling crawling all over my body.

Eek.


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Just_J, you should DEFINITELY stay.

and here is the reason: your post made me laugh right when i was on the brink of crying!!!

i do have this book. i have not openned it the past 3 yrs though.

i would like to join in. i fear i may not have much to offer but i will be reading and i'll at least post enough to let you all know i am still breathing...

so we are doing the intro and chapter 1 this week?

thanks NB for advertising this over in GQII

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All are welcome...

Hey, J... while the book is Christian, the *idea* that I can let go of the outcome by putting my H in God's hands is very uplifting and hopeful to me. I think you would totally appreciate the concept!

Hi FL,

Please join in!!



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I would love to do this study with you. I have read this book and used it off and on over the past five years. It is truly amazing how God works when we let go. It is when HE brought me to that point of letting my husband go and letting God deal with him through this book that I have seen amazing things happen in our lives.

I always have to check my motivations for my prayers, making sure they are not selfish. I look forward to this.

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Neat, bjs... please feel free to add any thoughts... or go ahead a bit and get the first chapter started, if'n ya want! Welcome!!



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I'll join. I'll need to go buy another copy of the book- I keep giving mine away to other women.

I probably can't buy the book til the weekend. So, some of you post some good info here, ok?

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YaY!!

MF, Welcome!

I am a fast reader, but am not able to log on often (though lately I've been on more than usual)... so I really am going to try to stick to one chapter a week... because I don't want to rush through and miss what's important!

Also, I want to make it clear that I haven't been as close to God as I would have liked over the last few years... this is also for ME... but I don't want anyone to think I'm an expert on this stuff: I'm NOT. I am excited to see what God can do!!



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I would love to join in but I need a few days to go out and get the book.We just started attending church and maybe this will help me get a better understanding.

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Welcome Daisey!

Go get the book... we'll be here... and yes, I think this book would support your new journey!



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FinallyLrningT2H - I'm glad I could make you laugh! I have often found that laughter on the brink of tears is the most healing thing that can possibly happen at that moment. I recall a time when... well, let's just say someone was mean and nasty to me because he had power over me and felt that he -could- be mean and nasty. And when I told someone else as I was on the brink of tears, the person just burst out laughing at how utterly ridiculous and small the person had been.

And you know what? That big ugly booger of a person changed right back into the small little dwarf that he'd always been for me, too.

Laughter is goooood stuff.

NB, thanks for a little bit more about the concept. I know a little about letting go of outcomes and how powerful that can be. Learning about it in the context of considering a husband? Hum. Well, I don't have one and have never had one, but I'll try to use my imagination...

Ooo!! My imaginary husband's on the phone. Bye!


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