Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996 |
MEDC
I think you are incorrect.... there is some sort of coercion undercurrent in their marriage ... I think 2B is swimming UPstream in her marriage.
Her H , on some level, values dishonesty.
That's what is bothering me about this.
Not 2B, but her H's attitude is the sticking point.
I don't trust him at this point.
And I am left wondering, why does he value secrecy?
Pep
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2005
Posts: 10,044
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2005
Posts: 10,044 |
You might be right... but I just don't see it. Perhaps I just maintain a very sinister view of those that can find any reason to harm another person in this fashion. I just look at the stall at getting this info out there in a much more critical way now. I think this was the expected outcome all along. I could be wrong and would be happy to eat my words... but for right now, I see nothing but bad intentions.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996 |
well
I see things through the eyes of a long-term recovered (10 years) marriage (of 25 years)
and because of that perspective
I sometimes can spot recovery trouble that is less than obvious
and there is something very subtle afoot here
and I don't think this stubbed recovery will progress until Mr 2B does some self-work ...
mind you, I am aware he is not present here and adding his voice ... so this is very 2nd hand conjecture on my part
but I do smell trouble
Pep
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996 |
and I think 2B is hurting
Pep
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2002
Posts: 1,717
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2002
Posts: 1,717 |
It's hardly fair to judge mr2bn's character based on what 2bn posts here. She is not truthful with herself so how can we trust that she is truthful here on the board?
It would certainly be helpful if mr2bn would post his POV on this matter. In lieu of that, I think that the character assessments should probably should remain with the one that is posting.
jmo
ba109
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996 |
ba
thanks
I am aware I am making a stupid leap... but leap I do
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2004
Posts: 3,525
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2004
Posts: 3,525 |
Agree Pep,
His stance is very revealing.
I wouldn't trust MY child within a 100 mile radius of 2b and her H if THEIR child needed an organ donated.
Whether "marriage building" or not..dishonest people are not trustworthy.
Dishonest people who are willing to sacrifice innocent victims to stabilize their own agenda are scary.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996 |
imaging you had something sitting HARD on your heart
your conscience is screaming at you
you ache to make amends & reparations
and your spouse says to you: "Don't do it"
instead of saying to you : "Let's figure out how to get it done & finished so you can be whole."
something funny going on here .... I just don't know what it is ?????
Pep
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
1,410
guests, and
71
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,627
Posts2,323,537
Members72,107
| |
Most Online8,273
Aug 17th, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
