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Hi, from someone along this path with you!

I've kind of taken it upon myself to share something that might make you feel a little less ignored and a lot more covered in prayer:

Many times, and this is true of me as well as many others, we come by this part of the forum, read a prayer request, and pray immediately.

It could be that you'll be put on a prayer request list... either personal or a group... and prayed for later.

Either way, please know that there are people who come by here and pray but don't always have the time to write a response.

This particular part of the forum ebbs and flows... at times it's been very busy, and others... well, if it were possible, you'd see a tumbleweed roll by.

I would hate to write my request and feel ignored... and have done it myself, matter of fact, so I know how you might feel.

Just a gentle reminder that along with those of us who read and don't respond, there is Another who is hearing your cries: God.

Bless each and every one of us... and for those in pain, I pray for healing.



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I am on of those that don't always have time to post but check here frequently and pray for every poster.

I also know that there are others that do the same.

Blessings to all of you.

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thanks for your response, S&C... I knew I wasn't alone about this...

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nb - you can add me to your list.

I don't check in here often anymore. I suppose it's because it seems as though people generally "pop in" and drop off a request and then we seldom hear from them again. It's very hard to converse with someone that way, so we are left with praying and leaving it in God's hands.

I would think that if someone is genuine in their request because of their own belief in God and are looking for some "prayer warrior" help from fellow believers, it is enough that we pray for them. But I also wonder sometimes if someone who is not a believer simply pops in to "cover all the possible bases." It's difficult to know, because it's unusual for them to respond so we can actually know what they believe. Sometimes the "best prayer" would not be related to their situation, it would be that they come to know Christ as their Savior first.

Just another "drive by" post from me, I guess.

God bless.

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Bump! Again...



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There are lots of us out here, offering prayers that are requested but rarely writing out a response. You are being heard!

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Please never forget this!!



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We haven't forgotten...

We're praying for YOU!



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Yes we are!

Blessings.

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Bump, and still praying...



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Still checking in, listening (reading) and praying for YOU!



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My wife tomorrow is seeing a lawyer to see her options for divorce, please pray for a change of heart and wisdom for us both. Ive committed horrible sin and ive accepted god into my life and hes changed me around and helped me become a man.

please pray my wife see's this and changes her heart and see's a future with us.

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Hi Zach....

I wanted to check with you before... and hesitated.

R u here?

Can I ask you a question?

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Hi Zach....

With grace, your wife may not be able to believe things you say. Please consider that in getting married, for example, you made vows and gave your word that you would be faithful.

You admitted an affair 11/07. You haven't proven an ability to keep your word yet. At this time, you are saying that you have gotten God in your heart and life. What practical things are you doing differently?

I think you wife needs to see a major change in your habits and lifestyle... to believe you... or to regain trust.

I would say that, were I you, I would confess my sin to the pastor of the church where I attend... and come under "church discipline".

"Church discipline"... having repented of sin... would not include "excommunication" Anyway, "church discipline"... imo... would include, having repented, coming under accountability. (just putting discipline into your life - and being subject to authority.)

In Promise Keepers, for example, they have "accountability partners". Attending Promise Keepers, joining that... coming under the authority of the church leadership (hopefully they are biblical and godly and hold to the Word)... in addition to regular attendance, Bible study, small group fellowship, giving to the church... etc....

all of these things done in an attitude of contrition, humility, and subjectedness (willing to subject yourself to the authority of those who are godly and mature in Christ - the authority they have meaning they are good examples and truly morally/spiritually equipped to "father you" in the Lord... mentor, train, and equip you).

It is good to give our hearts to the Lord - our hearts and minds. Yet, we must give our whole lives.

Even John the Baptist said (in so many words)... "Why do you come here to be baptized? Go show forth the fruits of repentance!"

You may have said, "I'm sorry. It won't happen again."

However, your whole entire life must turn around and the most important thing is to show yourself subject to higher authorities. (Godly men mature in the faith in the church and Promise Keepers, imo... that you are 100% accountable towards.)

Dr. Harley talks about the wife holding the H accountable after an A.

Well, your wife isn't wanting to reconcile, right now. She's wanting to divorce.

I'd say... clean up every area of your life right now.

Stop listening to secular music.
Stop watching secular tv.

I mean, if you want God to move radically in your life to get your life straight... get radical about God. In your life.

I mean in action, habits, lifestyle... everything.

Work hard in employment. Save your money. I mean, I'm talking every area of your life.

Not just in words, "I'm sorry." But a complete change in your life... what you do and how you do it.

You need serious strengthening in your character... and I recommend placing restrictions on yourself.

If you are serious... given the history of your affair behavior... this means a lot of serious action in a total turnaround in your schedule, habits, routine, and how you do life.

What have you done differently? What action steps have you taken?

As far as you personally being around any member of the opposite sex... I think you need a firm rule of "no contact" with the opposite sex outside of "supervision".

I'm serious and I mean it.

The # affairs you have had while dating and one soon after getting married make drastic safeguard steps necessary to protect your wife from lack of character development.

And you need to get about the business of an intense character development and accountability program, imo.

So there's my ?'s and my comments.

Praying for you.

But faith with out works is dead.

Getting to work on... you... and being so serious that everything changes... is necessary, imo, for you to be believed.

JTB (John the Baptist) wanted to see real evidence in fruits of repentance....

It's critical right now... and important.... imo. (We all need character development as Christians... but your situation is one of those "desperate times call for desperate measures" kind of things.)

I think you are a young person. I think this calls for growing up quick and giving up what you may associate with "being young"... to really have a happy life.

My SIL is 22... and the only way to be young and married is to just put behind you childish things.

You are a man. You are a husband.

I think you need to grow up quick... right now... and get about being a very responsible and very straightlaced Christian in every area of your life... and extremely conservative... to show the fruits of repentance... imo.

Giving up my "youth" and dedicating myself to being a wife and mother was the happiest decision I ever made.

You're gaining things youth can never give you if you put your youth behind you and find your enjoyment in being a serious, responsible Christian husband at this time, imo.

Major, major changes... I think are called for based on the history. YOu need to "rewrite your future"... right now... I believe... by like almost "tearing down" your life right to the foundation of how you live it... and rebuilding all new in Christ as a Christian.

Are you willing? To give your whole life?

That's really what you agreed to do... to lay down your entire life for your wife... when you took marriage vows to get married.

"I'm sorry"... isn't "I'm changing my whole life now!".

That's what a woman would need not to just hear... but to see... imo. And I think it would make you happier than you can imagine possible... in Jesus... in my personal opinion.

Praying for U.

God bless.

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P.S. My SIL is one very happy man. He's a very responsible young man who was more mature at 20 than many men are at 40... imo.

He's an A-1 top drawer Christian young man who goes to church every Sunday... works hard... is very financially responsible... provides for my daughter. My daughter listens only to Christian radio and is a dedicated stay at home wife. I mean, she's my joy... just a wonderful daughter.

Those are 2 very happy people.

Son, I'd (guess I won't use a euphemisms)... why I oughtta!!! - ... if you treated my daughter like that.

I'm telling you what... my SIL is so lucky to have my daughter.

And you better believe I had a list that any young man who wanted to date my daughter must coincide with....

IN CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT!!!!

Real practical things I wanted to see built into his life.

Well, he's everything on the list and more.

And georgeous to boot.

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They are so smart for marrying young, imo.

But you gotta "rise to the challenge"... and be a man!!!!

In previous generations... men were grown men at 14-16 years of age.

I'm talkin' responsible grown up men who took on their adult roles.

There's nothing like... a man.

I mean a man who has put away childish things.

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