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CS... The reason the word real is in quotations is because I meant that there didn't seem to be a reason explaining your questions... at least not one that made sense to me. I was not saying that you were lying... just had not explained yourself to my satisfaction, anyway, after repeated questions.

There is nothing wrong with being curious or trying to protect yourself from an A in the future. It may seem strange to many for someone to read a book about dealing with alchoholism when the person is neither an alchoholic, dealing with an alchoholic or studying to assist alchoholics. Just curiosity, although not wrong, seems unusual. The same would be for your responses to why you are asking about infidelity. Nothing wrong, and in fact, extremely insightful of you if you are simply trying to be proactive and ensure your marriage is protected. I guess that would have been an answer that may have helped. But unless I missed it in my reading, I didn't see any such answer. If it is there, then again I apologize.

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Thanks Shaden...In light of all the cyber abuse I have taken, that means alot. But beware! You are challenging the authorities here by apologizing to me...LOL

BTW-You hit a few of the nails on the head so to speak:

I guess I am an unusual person. I have been told as much by many different people. I can get interested in a topic simply because it catches my attention or because I don't know very much about it and would like to be informed. I can also get interested in finding info which proves / disproves my opinion about a subject. I tend to look at learning as "fun."

And you are correct-Part of my curiosity on this board is fueled by the desire to be proactive about my marriage. Again, this is why I read lots of relationship books and read what the "experts" say about love & marriage.

Heck-I was reading parenting books and I was member of many parenting web sites by the 2nd week of my pregnancy.

That's just how I roll.

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CinSug wrote:
Visiting these boards is indeed entertaining.


And CS, I do find it offensive that you're attempting to use a place of pain and anguish for your on-line entertainment.

People come here to heal and gain support for one of the worse experiences of their lives. And all you see is a place to entertain yourself. Sad and somewhat morbid.

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Well, speaking for you... that must include hinesty... since you seem to want to avoid that at all costs.... time for me to add this woman to the blocked list.


That's actually a good plan since you are in the habit of speaking for other people, communication with you is not possible.

Go for it!

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Yup, us people who've been to ****** and back sure are entertaining.

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Shaden, there's a definition of a troll floating around the board somewhere.

Time to dust it off I think.

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I don't think for a moment you're a troll, trolls have a different "feel" to them.

I think you are looking for something.


yes, I am looking for info & to help me be proactive about my marriage.

I am the proactive type. My philosophy is that an ounce of prevention is worth a megaton of cure.

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CinSug...

LOL, first Neak is NOT our daughter...A friend and contemporary only...

Second, I had no intention of "outing" you on this board, though you certainly had no problems putting our email to you on another board...I have no problem with that, as it contains the email addy that Mr. W and I both supply in our signature lines here and my email to you was very nice...Conveniently, though I noticed you did leave out your very snotty reply to my very genuine email to you...And, of course, then twisted the story on your other board...

I'll not argue with you about the semantics involved in the similarities between you and "your friend"...If you'd like, however, I would be glad to post my emails and yours...Along with "your friend's" post...

And AGAIN, we don't know who researched you...An anonymous email came to us...sigh...

Either ante up or move on...

Mrs. W


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DD ~ 17
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we honestly would support her if she chose to "frankly" provide us with the issues in her marriage...they are readily apparent to most if not all herein.


Well, Halle -lu- YA
See post # 3062501 for a problem within [color:"red"] my[/color] marriage. I just know you will feel better once you attempt to "help" me out.

Please give it a try. I am still unable to stop this behavior.

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Honey, you're telling me about IT terminology and web design intent??? LMAO!

That's awfully sweet of you, but believe me when I tell you, you can skip the electronic's theory 101, trust me on this.


So, web sites are not designed to be entertaining so that visitors will be inclined to linger?

BTW-Your use of the word honey indicates that you are becoming emotional.

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Can anyone say "deflection".

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BTW: Your use of "Well, Halle -lu- YA" indicates you're becoming emotional. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

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CS, I just want to ask you as a fellow human being to consider the people here and what they're going through.

Would you go on to a site where the damage is more visible (my previous example of breast cancer support or perhaps wounded war vets) and do what you're doing here?

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I have stated my position which is:

*I meant no disrespect to anyone here or their experiences.



*I do not view entertainment as a negative thing-especailly within the context of information dissemination. This is because people tend to retain more info when they are being entertained while receiving it.


That being said, I will not respond to this issue again because I believe that you are simply participating in the continuation of the ongoing cyber bash against me.

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There are 2 reasons for POSTING on this board CinSug...

1. To offer help or support

2. To ask for help or support

As far as your "info-tainment" theory is concerned, LURKING and READING should suffice!

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Cinn Suga

I am very sorry your husband has abused you, however, such abuse DOES NOT EXCUSE YOUR BEHAVIOR HERE. It explains it (oh, does it explain it), but doesn't make it justifiable.

I speculate that you are being tempted by someone consoling you during this difficult time. I implore you not to risk your integrity, no matter how entitled you "feel".

I hope your husband gets the help he needs and/or you extricate yourself from such mess. An affair will only complicate matters further.

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Ma'am I DID NOT post your email anywhere other than in that group to let the moderator and the members know what was going on. This was important. According to my friend some of these women's husbands would FLIP OUT on them if they found out about their participation in the group. Sorry, but I had to do it.

We need to get to the bottom of this if it actually happened somewhere else. It could be that someone is trying to incite / instigate further hostilities.


As for the rest of your comments: We should simply move on, up, and away from "my friend's" {((smirk))} situation. Though I seriously doubt you'll be able to because you haven't been able to thus far.


I intend to continue to be a participant on this board, so you'll eventually have to make your peace with [color:"red"] that fact [/color] and move on.

Believe dat.

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And CS, I do find it offensive that you're attempting to use a place of pain and anguish for your on-line entertainment.




HOLD UP...






I thought this was primarily a place for information, support and recovery...



MY BAD.

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CinSug,

If you are indeed a battered wife, this site is not equipped to support you fully. We can try, but its intent and infrastructure is setup for dealing with Infidelity.

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CinSug,

If you are indeed a battered wife, this site is not equipped to support you fully. We can try, but its intent and infrastructure is setup for dealing with Infidelity.



That didn't take long at all.

Damn...you caught me. I am really [color:"blue"] SB's wife [/color] .

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I am very sorry your husband has abused you, however, such abuse DOES NOT EXCUSE YOUR BEHAVIOR HERE. It explains it (oh, does it explain it), but doesn't make it justifiable.

I speculate that you are being tempted by someone consoling you during this difficult time. I implore you not to risk your integrity, no matter how entitled you "feel".

I hope your husband gets the help he needs and/or you extricate yourself from such mess. An affair will only complicate matters further.

Mr. Wondering



We have another winner!

My intent is to stay with him...for the money of course (because we all know taht military members are rolling in dough) AND I also intend to have an affair or three.

Judging by the posts here, it will be what hurts him the most..you know-like the way you hurt YOUR wife.

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