I am here because relationship issues are always entertaining, as well as informative...think info-tainment .
Entertainment? You are entertained by the destruction of people's marriages and families?
You want to learn about relationship issues, hence the "info-tainment"?
Well, I can certainly see why you might feel the need to learn about relationship issues. If you are anything in RL like you are on this board, you must not have many relationships to "entertain" you.
OK, I'm not going to delete that, but it was nasty of me to post that to you. But, think about it, CS. If you can't get along with anyone here, doesn't that say more about you than about the members of this forum?
Let's see...you appeared on Sbmmal's thread, picked up on one line where he admitted that he probably had some control issues that may have been abusive. Maybe...maybe not. Many BS tend to start out blaming themselves for their WS's affairs. Anyway, whether he was abusive or not abusive isn't the point.
The point is that you
HAMMERED him mercilessly about what
YOU apparently perceived as abusive behavior so horrible that his wife cheated.
Actually, CS, I was wondering WHY you were so uptight and rigid in your views that he was an abuser and IGNORING the abuse his wife is heaping on him...while he is in a precarious location, at that!
CS, I don't really believe you are here for entertainment. Maybe info-tainment, but I believe that you very likely have a reason for that. I think you're looking for some kind of help here, but you seem afraid to open up and actually ASK for help.
Actually, most of us here are actually very nice people. Yes, we come down hard on someone who seems to be deliberately trying to hurt someone, as in the case with Sbmmal.
So, what do you really want to do, CS? Do you just want to browse the board and hope you find a situation similar to the one you're concerned about, or do you want some actual help? If you want PROFESSIONAL help, call the Harleys. If you're in a bad situation and want/need some support, get off your high horse and tell us what you really need.
There is really nothing to lose by being nice here.