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When my WH says:
I still want to be with you for the rest of my life, I still want to grow old with you, I'm just not ready yet.
Maybe our relationship is too broken to be fixed.
Maybe we should divorce, I'm tired of hurting you.
It's not you, it's me.
Don't cry over me, I'm a piece of s**t.
You pushed me into having this affair.
I had to find someone else to give me some attention, you were ignorning me.
ETC.
Any suggestions (For my arsenal).
BTW, I go for a meeting at legal aide on Aug. 8th I think, and I'm not positive, but I'm leaning more towards divorce these days.
God Bless,
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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When my WH says:
I still want to be with you for the rest of my life, I still want to grow old with you, I'm just not ready yet. Orchid: Me too. When my WH says: Maybe our relationship is too broken to be fixed. Orchid: Yep. When my WH says: Maybe we should divorce, I'm tired of hurting you. Orchid: Me too. When my WH says: It's not you, it's me. Orchid: It sure is. When my WH says: Don't cry over me, I'm a piece of s**t. Orchid: ....and a stinky one too.... how come? When my WH says: You pushed me into having this affair. Orchid: Pushed? Not before but I sure know how to now. When my WH says: I had to find someone else to give me some attention, you were ignorning me. Orchid: ....so you settle for a hoarre? Orchid: Just give 'em that look.....you know sometimes they babble stuff we just can't put to print. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> ...BTW, I go for a meeting at legal aide on Aug. 8th I think, and I'm not positive, but I'm leaning more towards divorce these days. Orchid: If he is a WS and you're done with plans A & B, then you s/b leaning towards the D. MB may encourage us to try but it doesn't encourage us t/b doormats. Think hard Caren, do you know your boundaries? R U willing to enforce them? Can you? Will you? L.
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ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
why would someone in plan B have any interest in reverse babble...???
But I think I'm gonna hear some in the answer to this question.....
shouldn't your answer be..
[color:"red"]SILENCE!!! [/color]
I still want to be with you for the rest of my life, I still want to grow old with you, I'm just not ready yet.
[color:"green"]SILENCE !!! [/color]
Maybe our relationship is too broken to be fixed.
[color:"blue"]SILENCE !!! [/color]
Maybe we should divorce, I'm tired of hurting you.
[color:"orange"]SILENCE !!! [/color]
It's not you, it's me.
[color:"purple"]SILENCE!! [/color]
Don't cry over me, I'm a piece of s**t.
[color:"#666666"]SILENCE!!!! [/color]
You pushed me into having this affair.
[color:"pink"] SILENCE!!!!!!! [/color]
I had to find someone else to give me some attention, you were ignorning me
SILENCE!!!!
Caren you confuse more than any other poster...
ARK..
are you or are not in plan B...
AND
is not ANY CONTACT with OW...(did I read you sent her a CARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
nothing but a full diet of DRAMA for you ...
that's all you know...
ARK
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AMEN..AMEN..to ARK!!!! Caren, remember what Pep said about the drama? Remember what I said before that about the OW? Any contact with the OW = DRAMA!!! I don't get it, Caren. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Ditto....
Mimi and Ark, you gals are quick. I read the title to this post and thought EXACTLY what you both said above.
Why would someone who just gave a PLAN B letter less than a WEEK AGO need to know how to respond to comments from a WH???
Good Grief. Caren you seem like a reasonable intellegent woman. You get all this, right?
Why can't you DO IT?
Maybe the biggest part of working on yourself should be IMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR CONTROL.
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Ditto....
Mimi and Ark, you gals are quick. I read the title to this post and thought EXACTLY what you both said above.
Why would someone who just gave a PLAN B letter less than a WEEK AGO need to know how to respond to comments from a WH???
Good Grief. Caren you seem like a reasonable intellegent woman. You get all this, right?
Why can't you DO IT?
Maybe the biggest part of working on yourself should be IMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR CONTROL. Caren, These gals are correct. I forgot about the plan B letter you gave him. You still need to think about your boundaries. Listen, I sense you are majorly hurting but that's not the reason why you should communicate with him. If he is asking such questions, he is attempting to engage you in convo to enable his A. Don't feed the A. Btw, the OW ain't worth your time also. She's a ditz. L.
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