and like my name says : I don't know anymore....

I am married almost two years and during that period a lot of things happened..First of all we are both foreigners in a foreign country .. we met we got married and everything went fine ..until recently when my work permit got denied ..We had financial discussions before but now it is getting worth ..it's not that Hubby can't afford it but I hear a lot of times : Me and my fat [censored] being at home" which I hate because I am NOT used to being at home at ALL ....
We have a lot of discussions about nothing but in the end it sounds like I take advantage of him and I don't like the feeling...
Tonight I picked him up and the night didn't start to bad but after he had a few drinks a discussion came up of me wearing his shirt and me " again being at home with my fat [censored] again" ...I hate it .. the discusssion got louder and I told him to shut up ...and can we please have an adult conversation ...well it ended up that he packed his bag and left ...
Where do I go wrong here and what am i supposed to do ... I really need some help here ....

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Idunnoanymore, more details please?

What country do you live in? Which country(ies) are you each from (nationalities). Why was your work permit declined?

On the personal side: how old are you both?
Do you think your husband's comments are attcking your weight, your unemployment, or both?
Does your H not like sharing his clothes with you for some specific reason?
How do you take advantage of him (just financially)?
Does your H drink a lot / often?

I am no expert on relationships, but I think with more details someone may be able to help you. The only thing I could point out is that for you to say "shut up" followed by "can we please have an adult conversation" is a bit of a contradiction.

I think more details may help you get an answer...