it's been awhile since i last posted since nothing really had changed but my wife moved back in on sat night and things have been great!!!! i know its only been a couple of days but just having her back and showing me that she is trying to make this work is just so wonderful. a thing that made my eyes water was sun morning when my daughter (2 1/2) woke up i went to get her and like she has done before ask where mommy was (since i have her on week-ends) i told her sleeping in our room she got all happy and ran into our bedroom yelling mommie mommie!!! i figured she knew something was different but sure didnt expect that reaction. gave my wife some mixed feelings, sad and happy all at once. it really feels like things are going to get better now. but still lots of work to do but easier now.