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should you delete that now PEP>>>

tell me when to hit the delete button..

we can have a delete contest...

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Seriously, does Tear = Curly?

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yes...tear IS curly... she has posted all over the site...has had more than one inappropriate relationship with several different OM... she won't come clean to her H..she lies.... and continues to post..then delete...post...then delete.... but yes...I can confirm...tear is curly.....


DDAY 2/25/04
Plan A 3/1/04
Recovery started 4/14/04....still going strong
.... and quite happy.
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My apologize to everyone who has read this post... I need professional help, as you can see my case is not easy. Im not planning to kill anyone, but Im afraid of my H reaction, (even with himself) and Im worry about myself...(sometimes he got so violent)
.. My God!!, I WAS lost and yes I had several virtual relations by internet,, just one in real (and he never see me without clothes but even this I know I had a PA even we didnt make love)
I love my H and I want to fight for keep my M alive, now my M is better than 5 months ago.. and Im optimistic... I just ask for a second chance... I give my word to my H and unfortunately I needed to live D day in order to understand how damage can we do to the one we love.. just because or madness...
Before, leave this site, my apologize again to everyone who my post could botter, because it was discousting... and yes I feel that Im the monster in the planet.. and maybe thats why I accepted when my H hit me. (not just once) but I think Im not going to accept it again...
I believe in God and he knows that Im terrible sorry, and he knows I learned the lesson, and I havent have any other bad behaviour since D day, and if he wants I can have another chance.
Thanks to the one that gave me an advice, I appreciate it...
Best wishes to all...

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Curly,

I believe you made that post not to be disgusting, but to finally be honest...with yourself. Truly honest in facing what you chose to do, without anyone making you.

I think that's important. You used a lot of lies to yourself to betray your marriage...feed by a lot resentment you have and have built up inside you; entitling you (like not meeting your SF EN, not talking, not enough time and attention)...and not respecting others.

I would like you to consider what you do for you to meet your own ENs...being honest with yourself, listening and giving attention to yourself...I don't think you're crazy...I think you don't like yourself...and you don't even know the person God made whole and complete.

Being sorry is important...being honest as to why you made those choices, and know they were your choice, alone...is the key to not repeating this behavior, these choices...you never have to be unfaithful again...if you don't choose to be.

Work on you, Curly...get counseling for you...so you can learn to listen, be safe, communicate who you are without fighting back...and not taking any abuse, either.

Respect was a key ingredient for what you need...examine it and know respect for what it truly is...

You can do this...you came clean here...and you will to your BH...I know you will...because you respect yourself and your marriage enough to know you can't undo what you did, nor control your H...being honest with him will free you to be fully honest...no matter the outcome.

In your corner,

LA

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Hi Curly,

I would like to talk to tear.

Can you please let tear post?

Thank you.

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