I'm ready to move on. While I know that WH wants D, he is totally uncooperative and is causing D to drag out. I'm not even sure that he is talking to his lawyer. I think he is basically unhappy and is trying to prove that he can control me. He has too many people telling him what to do so he thinks anything I offer is suspect. I've made him several good offers and would allow him to take advantage of me to get it over with if it were not for DD. I'm currently paying over 3/4 of the bills and we have net liabilities, not net assets.

I want to refinance bills, have a garage sale, replace furniture that WH took, get involved with the singles class at church, go out with friends, etc. However, I have either been told not to by lawyer or feel that these are inappropriate until D is final.

I have a court date for Aug 7, but lawyer has said that they overbook. I may have to take off work and sit at the court house without ever seeing a judge that day. Even if I do, the judge may order mediation. WH has already refused to negotiate and a mediator is expensive. Any suggestions on how to speed this process up?

LOL!!! WH sent me a new settlement offer. We have net assets & liabilities of about negative $35,000. He has offered to take about $20,000 in bills if I pay him around $40,000 and not ask for any child support for DD. He's gone completely off the deep end!

fbwidow,

The courts in TX will not allow you to negotiate away child support. I was willing to agree that my WH not pay child support because of his earning capacity vs. mine, but the court would not allow it. It is statutory - even the amounts are set according to a formula contained in the statutes.

Regards,

BB