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My WW and I just relocated back to my hometown. She had been here 3 weeks before I moved up (my birthday). I found out about the OM the day after I returned. Checked the text messeges on her cell phone. She has been sending care package to our troops and started communicating with him online. OM is back in the states and WW has admitted to meeting him once. Messeges were explicit. I was heart broken. WW promised to stop communicating with OM when I confronted her. 3 weeks later WW is texting him again. My question is how do approach her about starting Plan A.
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She doesn't start Plan A...you do. And you do it as you expose her affair to everyone...including OM's CO. Immediately.
Uhm, he is in the military, correct?
And welcome to MB...
You're not alone or nuts. You will find so many here know your heartbreak...
I would move your post by cutting and pasting it to Infidelity General Questions II forum...highest traffic, best visibility.
Expose to her family, your family...friends...fill in if you have children, how long married, mark your DDay (day you found out)...and what you believe Plan A is about.
I would cancel the cell phones...but that's just me.
LOL
You are going to learn a lot...about marriage, yourself and love...please keep posting.
LA
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Yes, OM is in the Army. I know his name - no rank or unit.
I will start today telling everyone. If anyone has ideas on finding his CO. Please, speak up.
BS ME - 33
WW - 40
Son - 2
Married - 5 yrs July 14th
Dday - July 1st
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I asked USSoldier to check in on you...he's deployed and it ain't him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Are you going to move your thread? You deserve the traffic, sbuilder. You're a quick study...there's the sigline, the info, and everything... How are you doing? Oh, move your thread and I'll follow...don't answer that. LOL Welcome!! LA
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That's funny about USSoldier. Yes I am going to move my thread. It will have to be later today. Any help USSoldier can give me would be appreciated.
I'm doing fine. Lot's of questions. WW spouse at her family out of town until Wednesday. Confirmed she really is at her Moms. Had dinner with her entire family last night wish I was there to tell them. Will check in on her today - often. Having lunch later today with friend in the Army Reserves - going to tell him and ask for help.
Thank you for your support.
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sb,
I am sooo sorry you are here with us, but the people here are amazing and we are all in good hands. I'm glad that I may finally be able to help someone out.
1st let me ask if the OM we are talking about is in the unit your WW is sending packages to?? That could be the easy quick fix.
The sneeky, sneeky fix would be to give me his name (send it to the email address I put at the bottom of this page) and I can look him up on an army email page. As long as OM is active duty, I should be able to find him.
Also, if you know what post he is stationed at, that would be very helpful.
I will make no promises that I will find the desired info, but it is a good first step that is free.
Sorry it has taken me so long to get to this, I am pretty busy over here at the moment which is good b/c it keeps my mind off of my own sitch.
LA,
Thank you for directing me here! I have only been on for a few weeks, but the info you have already given me is so solid and gives me the forsight to (hopefully) save my M. I am honored to be able to help!!
deleted is my email. My WW sometimes checks this acct, but she is off wed and thurs and has no access to it. I hope you can send it tonight. Use your MB user name as the subject and I will reply the same day I get it.
Keep the faith and I'm sorry a dirtbag has infected your family. Not all soldiers are like this. Especially not me, as LA has said!
PS definitly move to gen II
Last edited by USSoldier; 07/26/06 11:09 PM.
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if you wish to find this Army person, and not that I mean to step on USSoldier's toes, then send me the name and location of this person. I can probably have something for you in an hour. patriot92@gmail.comYes... I am military. I would be happy to help you out if you want.
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No problem at all patriot. sbuilder, How are things going?
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