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Oh, Mr W, that doesn't sound good. Edited, I changed your sex so you were your wife. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Wow, how'd u do that? Do tell. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> L.
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LOL Orchid, it was easy peasy. I called Mr W, Mrs W.
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Oh PLEASE NO Jen...I dig Mr. W's "sex"!!!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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And yes, I believe even second marriages, especially those with young children, should be saved if at all possible IF the unfaithful spouse is truly sorry and repentant and desires to be a good parent. I smell [color:"red"] RED HERRINGS [/color] -does anyone else? Two questions: 1) What about marriages which have produced no children -are they less worth saving / do they receive different consideration? 2) Do you sincerely believe that the only way to be a "good parent" or to have the "desire" to be a "good parent" is within the context of a marriage? AOL keyword commonsense : You are "married" to your spouse, not your children (IF ANY). This is precisely why Dr. Harley's (and other experts') concepts & theories correctly focus upon spousal relationships because THAT is what a marriage is all about. The problem with some folks here is that they are so wrapped up in THEIR INTERPRETATION of Judeo Christian "that's the way the Lawd made it" thinking that it is virtually impossible to conduct an intellectual examination of the facts.
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MEL, YOU DID IT AGAIN, YOU MISQUOTED ME AS SAYING "THEY CAN NEVER BE FORGIVEN", I DID NOT SAY THAT, YOU TOOK IT OUT OF CONTEXT AND THAT IS WRONG TO DO AND COMPLETELY CHANGES WHAT I SAID TO LEAVE THE SECOND PART OFF.
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"I know the 'think' here is that if someone marries a person they had an affair with, that they can never be forgiven, even if they have children together, because they are with that person so their 'adultery' continues. That the only way to repent is to get a divorce. (That is not my thinking but some believe that.)"
Now I am getting away from this computer and joining
SHADEN outside for some fresh air and sunshine! IWRA, unfortunately this person is responding to what she THINKS you said rather than what you actually did say...LOL Welcome to the club.
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Oh Spectacles, how nice that you have joined in this discussion. Now we have a predatory OW weighing in. I say we should just contact the TOW site and ask if they'd like to somehow partner up with MB. I mean we're all so open-minded! A marriage is a marriage right? Why bother trying to help people break up these As and save the first M anyway? I say let's just help the WS and the OP learn good MB skills so there new M will be a great success! You're absolutely right Spectacles. Tell all your OW friends to just bypass TOW and come right on in here for some darn good advice. Oh by the way, have you told the man you're "just living with" about the MM you are using MB skills to have a great R with yet? Just curious? Hope everything you've learned here is helping you out! .... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> CS, why r u shocked?
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IWRA, unfortunately this person is responding to what she THINKS you said rather than what you actually did say...LOL
Welcome to the club. And unfortunately, you didn't follow the posts to see that SHE was the one with the misunderstanding! Welcome to the club! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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What are you shocked about? I did not know that Spec was a "predatory OW"-and the post was a bit..... tart.
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Kiwi,
According to Spectacles early last week on Recovery Board (note... I don't put too much stock in what OW say)...Scott is getting divorced, he called her for support and she is going to help him through it. Since she is living with another boyfriend anything her and Scott may do will have to wait till after the divorce ...ya know, so it can all be on the up and up.
That was my take...for what it's worth.
Mr. Wondering Well, damn-this is simply more of the same behavior. How will the "new boyfriend" feel when he discovers she was simply biding her time with him????
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Yeah, I'd say that'd be an accurate description of an OW...True dat!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W
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I followed and it appeared to me that you simply badgered her into agreement-as usual-LOL!
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I followed and it appeared to me that you simply badgered her into agreement-as usual-LOL! Try reading a little more carefully next time, then. You didn't "get" it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />Here we go!
Save your keystrokes Melody. You know it will not work with me...
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I followed and it appeared to me that you simply badgered her into agreement-as usual-LOL! Yeah Melody, you do have a knack for using danged ole logic and reason to get to the heart of issues...Shame on you for being so intelligent! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W
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Guess you should be little more careful before you shoot off your mouth, huh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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How surprising..."intelligent" = in lockstep
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How surprising..."intelligent" = in lockstep COSIGNED! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W
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How surprising..."intelligent" = in lockstep Intelligence? Wouldnt that include the ability to INTERPRET posts and understand the issue before she shoots off her big mouth with a cheap shot? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
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How surprising..."intelligent" = in lockstep COSIGNED! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W **snort** <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Guess you should be little more careful before you shoot off your mouth, huh? You sound like someone in a bar, challenging another patron to a fist fight. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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