I need to make a correction in my posting. From first posting on the resolving conflict forum to the infidelity forum somehow the word "emotional" affair was inadvertently omitted. My husband had an EMOTIONAL affair with my sister This is a very important word to me because if he had a physical affair he would no longer be my husband. Don't get me wrong, for any of you that have replied and are going through that trauma and working at it, I give you all the credit in the world. You are a biggger person than me. I just couldn't do it. I am so true blue that to live with my husband after that I would have made his life a living ****** so the marriarge would have been destroyed anyway. But the emotional affair does as much damage on my heart but because he was willing (first one to go) to counseling right away and found out so much about himself and is treating me very well -that is the determining force here for me. I pray every day that he is worth my trust again. I will forgive but never forget. I am trying to forgive my sister but CAN never forget. I will get into more of that as we talk. It has already put a tremendous strain on the extended family(not my kids) because my mom and one of my sisters just act like I should not have blamed her for even only the 10 percent that I do but they have made me the bad one here and do not see at all that her secrecy was very harmful and hurtful. She always has "stuck" up for men even if she doesn't know the whole side of a situation. More later.