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Excellent book so far that is the title above the author is Bob Reccord , it is a christian based book.
I wanted to post part of a letter that a 19 yr old daughter wrote to her father that abandoned her her brother and mother for his affair partner.....
I heard Jim Dobson of Focus on the Family read it on the radio and went out and got the book...... here is what she wrote......


I cannot comprehend the sincerity of anything yo say anymore, dad.
You say that you love me, yet you knowinly. hurt me and my family.
You say that you would die for me, but you were unwilling to live for me.
You say that you miss me , yet it is you who left and abandoned me.
I am learning that words are a cheap commodity....especially your words.

I am angry with you for living a life of deception and for going against everything that you taught me to be true and right. I disrespect you as a man, husband, and as a father. You are a coward for not willing to sacrifice something for the love of your own children. More than anything, I pity you fir throwing your life away for lust. You had every earthly thing a man could ever dream of: a loving famliy two adoring children, a womdeful job , respect in the communtiy, and all the possessions you could ever want. Yet you had a void in your life. Instead of filling that void with Christ, you allowed sin to fill it. You are caught inside a cloud of deception. I hurt for you because I know that one day, you will look back at your life and realize all that you have lost....for nothing. And I am afraid for you because I know that God wikk deal with your sin in His time and that it will be far worse than any earthy punishment or grief you could encounter. You are in dangerous position by not fearing the Lord.

I cannot allow you back into my life until you have a change of heart. As much as it hurts me to push you away, I believe that it is necessary for my healing. I don't know believe that my brother and I are really a neccessity in your life as you claim. I recall the many times, while growing up, that you convinced us that a parent could not not desire anything more than love from his own children. obviously, you have changed your mind--if you ever really meant those words in the first place. You seem to have no problem trading us for a replacement person. No matter how many times you say that you love me, I cannot believe those words without seeing the actions.

As disappointed and upsetas I am, I will not cease to pray for you. I will pray that God will soften your heart. I will pray that you will not find the true peace or contentment until you are right with God. I will that one day, before we die, you will have a change of heart and lifestyle and thatour relatioship can be renewed. I will pray that, in time God will grant me the grace to forgive you.

in the meantime, I will learn to live again. I will learn to trust and depend on the Lord to be my Father.
I am thankful that God is a Father who will never betray, deceive or hurt me. Life will be different and difficult at times, but I am confident that God will provide for Mom, my brother, and me. Each day will get a little easier and a little less painful to face.

Hi SS,

This brought tears to my eyes. Nowadays, it seems like a lot of things make me cry. It's so heartbreaking when children are involved. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Since my WH's A, I have filled my bookshelves with a lot of new books on M, infidelity, and Christian literature. I'm going to buy this one. Jim Dobson's book has been helpful, not necessarily for my own sitch but for better understanding M and As in general. Thanks for the excerpt!

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Wow. From the mouths of babes. She is a courageous child to speak the truth. My son at 6 did similar in his own little way of course. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I applaud and have respect for the young woman who wrote that letter.

Thanks for posting it.

Mahalo,
L.

Soundslike a very well written plan B letter, doesn't it? Very well done. Thank you.