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T.E.A.R and grief
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I read this and I just wanted to share. Skip to the part that says This Means That: The beginning is very boring but it is short.

http://www.counselingforloss.com/article8.htm

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3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby


When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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frognomore #1718870 07/29/06 12:32 PM
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Good article
My first reaction to the car battery example was that I had a good laugh, but because I am not at stage 5, (acceptance of the sad relics of my marriage), it also made me feel queasy. I still have a little bit of fight left in me.

And let's not forget, that Kubler-Ross wrote about these 5 stages in a background of an unchangeable fact.

I am a believer in hope, and "it's not over til it's over" and I demand a second option.
Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Refuse to give up, Back to (some kind of) happiness.

Thanks for pointing out the article

time to change the crazy one-sided no-fault divorce laws - ideas/opinions welcome
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What I liked about it is that it seems to align well with recovery. If you so choose.

Especially the Reinvest in the new reality.

T = To accept the reality of the loss
E = Experience the pain of the loss
A = Adjust to the new environment without the lost object
R = Reinvest in the new reality

BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby


When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.

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