My husband and i have only been married for 5 months and we are set on the road to divorce. I really don't want to be divorced, but I do need to feel supported.

I find that my husband hears me but he doesn't LISTEN to me. We have the same conversations over and over. arguments I should say. Im a smart, independant woman and he can really make me feel stupid sometimes. I feel like i could be better on my own, I did it for years and was a lot happier. I do love my husband and want to be married but i just dont think it is going to work.

He wants to argue about money, but if he would stop buying me things and just treat me better then we wouldnt be in this predicament. We get in an arguement, he buys me a mercedes, got in another argument he bought me a quad. I dont need or want these things but he seems to think that it will help me forget the fact that I was mad in the first place. So instead of fixing our problems he just covers them up, that makes me even madder. We also argue over the fact that he doesnt support me. I feel like I just don't need him anymore. Yes we still love eachother but is that enough anymore. I refuse to spend the rest of my life miserable, but i dont want to lose my husband either.

Is there a way to fix this? And I'm sure you guessed, we dont have money for counseling but we are interested in it. does anyone know of any free or lowcost counseling services. I know im unhappy but im ready to work to save this. I will not get married again, but i should give it a 100% chance, right?

You don't have money for counseling but he bought you a Mercedes?

OK, how much reading have you done here?

There may be counseling services in your area that offer sliding fee scales. That is something you will have to find out. Do you have a church home? Many ministers can do some counseling but, in reality, few of them are trained to do significant amounts of it. Perhaps your minister could provide referral. Did you have any pre-marriage counseling as is required in some churches.

You would want a pro-marriage oriented counselor. Some are 'happiness' oriented and would tell you to split up and get over it. You want someone who will help you grow together.

Have you read about the emotional needs? Have you read about lovebusters? All this information is here. I recommend you post on the Emotional Needs board. You will get more feedback there.