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I am on the edge of filing for divorce on grounds of fault.

Now I am a FWH, I didn 3 ONS last one 3 years ago, and the first one about 7 years ago. I am not innocent but my WW is off the deep end. Starting back in Aug 05 she started having inapproriate phone conversations with guys she met out at the bars, I confronted her about it and Jan 06 we started a recovery - bad one at that. March 06 she started a phone affair with OM4 - talking 3000 minutes in the month. April 1st I moved out because she wanted to see OM4 because he was coming into town. Over the month of April and May she had several contacts with him. Leaving my children (3 daughter's with in laws) who were staying with her at the time. May she breaks off contact with OM4 and we start recovery (very shaky) June 25 she received email from former BG/lover who she believes is her true love. July 3-5 she sneaks away to be with him in NY. Comes back lies to daughters and I - I confront her and she says whatever I am in love with him. July 13-17 she spends 4 day weekend on his boat in long island sound. Comes back tells daughters she will eventually marry him, and that she loves him dearly....

Now we are separated and we have to wait a year, we are living in the same house and I am trying to sell it but she wants money out of the house and I want to get rid of it.

My option is to divorce from bed and board, I have phone logs, emails, text messages and withness that say she has had imappropriate relationships with men. In North Carolina adultery can be proven with Opportunity and Intent, lawyer thinks I have that and more.

I am just wondering what has other need to make a fault divorece stick in court.

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I have no idea. Have you done websearches? Did you ask the attorney?

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Viking ,
Did you check out the web links that I gave you in your other thread? (You're welcome <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.)
Here's another one specifically addressing "divorce from bed and board":
NC Divorce from Bed & Board
However, you might want to be careful, because your wife can make a counterclaim due to your own past infidelities. I live in NC and personally think the use of this type of D is rare, and just sets up the lawyers to make more money from all the extra time they'll be spending on the case.

Have you thought about getting her to sign a quitclaim and having that as part of your future divorce settlement? Your best bet about your house is to try to work it out with your wife as an Absolute Divorce, without going the B&B route, IMHO.


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