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I want this over. I want my famly... you got me all sloshy with this
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Low,
I saw what you posted.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE think. I am not "up" on your current situation, I apologize for that.
Do what you need to do, but THINK!!
NCWalker
(Edited to add: The intent is the kids - if you are apart, there must have been some degree of "badness" to the situation to get you to that point. A joyful homecoming will be far outweighed if it CAN'T work. Just think.)
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My family needs me...they need something that no one else but me can give them...
My daughters are angry, fearful and lost...my wife is lost...
what the ****** was I thinking...
come ****** or high water...I'm the one to save us... stunning
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I let her let me leave... I didn't fight... I let her make that decision...
All that has happened... is my fault ... "all" is not your fault but... since you are suddenly MAN-up ... wow .... speachless go be the MAN
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I'm here...thousands mile away...and alone....
I miss them so much...
I miss my wife...
I cant type...tmorrow..
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Sounds like a plan, Low.
Or the front song of some broadway show.
Stunning is good. Permanent is better. What will it take to be permanent?
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LO,
Do come back tomorrow. We will be here to help.
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LO,
Good luck in what you decide, if it is to travel, I hope it is safe and without too many airport delays!
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Hang in there man. I know where you are at.
Standing in His Presence
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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hunny
I am praying for you & your family
God Bless
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{{LO}} That hurt my heart to see you in such pain. Take care and do what you need to do.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
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((Low))
I'm also praying for you and your family. Do what you feel is right.
God bless,
Rose
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Recovering, still!
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LO
Its going to be hard work. Uninstinctive too. You might not get a welcome from your wife, initially at least. But PLEASE persevere.
I think you are right and righteous in this.
I have learned this - there is no higher state of grace for a man than to be what his family needs him to be in a crisis. Go be that man.
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Low - Hang in there. I can't really comment on what is the right or wrong thing to do. I just don't know.
What I would say though is to take a couple of moments, take a deep breath, and make a plan with some clear realistically achieveable objectives for the short term.
It is noble to want to save your family, it is normal to question your previous actions, and it is understandable to want to ease your pain.
But these are long term goals that I doubt will be solved in one gallant charge up the mountain.
Think about what needs to be done today, tommorrow, and the next that protects versus saves your family, helps provide answers to your questions, and can make the pain bearable. Make sure those things are consistent with and work toward your long term goals, but accept that they are only steps in a much bigger process.
Maybe others have different opinions, but I just fear charging off in a highly emotional state is very risky.
Keep on keeping on.
Me 43 BH
MT 43 WW
Married 20 years, No Kids, 2 Difficult Cats
D-day July, 2005
4.5 False Recoveries
Me - recovered
The M - recovered
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I think he's in the air...
Good luck, LO. Being The Man for your family...priceless...whatever reception you get.
TA
"Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people." - Spencer Johnson
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Here's what I see...
Low's grief has finally caught up with him !
Low has lost his family. He owns his part of the destruction of his family.
Low was so busy ~moving on~ with his life .... he steped ahead of his natural grief.
Sometimes, "moving on", is a euphemism for "running away".
Later ... grief hits home & heart.
This could be a turning point.
I long felt Low was much more miserable about the family break-up than he was letting on.
I like Low ... even when he's infuriating.
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Pep:
I think you have it.
At various times, I've felt what it's like 2 try 2 follow a preconceived timeline, only 2 find myself out of sync with my own recovery.
2much unfinished business.
-ol' 2long
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Pep is right as usual!!
{So, do I get something for saying that, Pep?]
Standing in His Presence
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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