I have noticed that when conversations get too hot and heavy, the moderator swoops in and intitiates a COVERSATION ABORTION -silencing everyone.

Why is this occuring?

Why can't people simply be allowed to voice their opinions-is freeflowing opinion somehow.... dangerous- OR is this the inevitable result of people running to the moderator as someone else insinuated?

There are alot of opinons that need expressing and raw emotions that need letting out.

Maybe we could all come to some kind of understanding if the conversations were permitted to take their natural course: We will tip toe, tap dance, snicker, and bicker, and then after our collective catharsis we'll probably all come to some kind of understanding since we are all well meaning adults who simply have different appraoches to life and slightly different interpretatons of Harley's concepts. What would be so wrong with that?

With these CONVERSATION ABORTIONS people drag unanswered questions and unresolved feelings & issues from thread to thread and then explode on each other all over again in a vicious cycle....mainly because we never get to complete a cycle.


I mean no disrespect to the Almighty Moderators; however, these questions needed asking.

You think snickering and bickering is okay? How is it well meaning or adult to snicker and bicker?

Moderators watchguard for violations of TOS. I don't feel style-cramped to receive cautionary comments from Moderators - and I have received them a few times.

I don't believe it's necessary to complete all cycles. Each of us are at different stages in life and levels of wisdom dealing with new experiences...a modicum of decorum is a welcome thing in my book.

and people trolling will get banned and have their threads locked. rightly so.

Oh, no, of COURSE not. That's why this sounds so, well, so respectful! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

CS, I think it is good these discussion forums have moderators.

I am not sure why they locked the thread I started but
I am sure they had their reasons and I am OK with it.

These marriage builders forums should be a safe place for
all to come that are seeking help with their marriages.

If we could all remember that "soft words calm wrath and
harsh words stir up anger" we would be a lot better off.

However, every one of us are guilty of not always following
the above Bible verse. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

~*PEACE*~ and Good Night to all. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />