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If someone publishes it (as opposed to self-publishing), they'll probably change the titls anyway. *pouty face*
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I'm conflicted about the idea of the book. It might be a good warning. On the other hand, from basic training onwards, there's always somebody telling you that Jody back home is using your significant other as a trampoline. Sadly, it often turns out to come true.
My fear is that providing more proof that military spouses cheat will continue to encourage the servicemembers that it's ok to do it too. I really have heard the phrase "I'm sure she's doing it too" to justify affairs.
Then the spouses back home hear about all the infidelity between servicemembers or with civilians while deployed. They start thinking the same way.
Me - BS
DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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I'm conflicted about the idea of the book. It might be a good warning. On the other hand, from basic training onwards, there's always somebody telling you that Jody back home is using your significant other as a trampoline. Sadly, it often turns out to come true.
My fear is that providing more proof that military spouses cheat will continue to encourage the servicemembers that it's ok to do it too. I really have heard the phrase "I'm sure she's doing it too" to justify affairs.
Then the spouses back home hear about all the infidelity between servicemembers or with civilians while deployed. They start thinking the same way. Dobie, Just as we hear the Jody calls...the spouses know the scoop back home. They know this stuff. This book wont enlighten them to it. But, hopefully it will bring to light to the general public who these individuals are that are supposed to be supporting that soldier...but instead betray them and stab them in the back. And all they do is weaken a nation! I view a WS who is a military spouse even more harshly than a civilian WS. I see their adultery as also treasonous. As well as the OP. Those that cheat on their soldier not only owe repentence to their spouse...they owe it to the nation.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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WS's who cheat on deployed soldiers hurt our war effort. It took away a fully qualified pilot by destroying him emotionally. I know I'm responsible for my own misery, but what can you do when you never see it coming and your whole life is turned upside down?
As far as justifying affairs by deployed soldiers goes, that's nonsense. The consequences of adultery in the military are very severe, especially for officers. I fully support those consequences and believe there should be an equivalent for civilians.
Cheating spouses hurt the war effort. Adultery should be a crime with fines and jail time.
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My H's exW was in the Navy (he was not). They D'd about 1995 because of her repeated adultry, always with other military personel. It happened when she was away on trainings, she was never deployed overseas. I believe she would have been that way no matter what her profession. Some people just dont believe in monagamy.
Statistcally, I wonder how more often if affects military personel. The stats are so high anyway, it might not be any higher.
Soldiers who cheat vs. soldiers who are cheated on... I hear it both ways. No guarentees eitherway, it seems - Dru
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The consequences of adultery in the military are very severe, especially for officers. <snort> Only true when the command takes an interest. I was in for 15 years and didn't see much of that. And I worked with all the services. I saw a lot of looking the other way. Often, if someone got into trouble, there was the attitude that they were stupid for getting caught.
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DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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The consequences of adultery in the military are very severe, especially for officers. Especially if the CO is engaging in inappropriate behavior also in front of everyone others under his command <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> and has been called on the carpet about it from others. Then to have a CO's wife stongly discourage me from surprising my spouse on a port call. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Makes me all the more determined to surprise him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I like the idea of a book. I'm in with my story, no matter which way it turns out.
I can't believe how prevalent this is amongst the deployed force. I have 6 divorces and two new cases of betrayal THAT I AM AWARE OF in my unit of 160. I'm sure there's plenty more where that came from.
It has gotten so bad that I'm working with the Chaplain to start a support group based on MB principles. I'm calling it Reconciliation by Fire... What is this world coming to? I'm in total agreement that treason is an appropriate punishment for OP and WS... Hang 'em all.
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