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O h please help meeeeeeeeeeeee
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((((((((((((((((((((BK)))))))))))))))))))))
Can ya tell us what's happening?
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Just saw an IM from as***** # 1 to my wife. It has been quite some time. Asked why she hasn't written in a while. I think we are through!!!!!!! It has been a ****** year and a half since this ****** came in to ruin my family. I will not do another round of suffering!
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Did your wife respond? or ignore it? If she responded....what did she say?
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It was still there so No! Yahoo deletes on closure.
My life has become a cruel joke. Some time ago I would have been out at my gun cabinet. I realised that would only add to the destruction.
Someday Bush will come out and label adultery as terrorism. Yeah right!
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BKarl,
Is your W at home now?
Does it look like this is the first contact attempt in a year?
Me: FWW (34)
H: BS (35)
Together 12 years, no children (yet)
LTA: 3 years
D-Day: Sept. 13, 2005 (I confessed)
So blessed, thankful and happy for my wonderful H...
"God lives in the gathering of saints."
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if she aint there answer the im yourself and make believe your her
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BKarl,
I agree, it seems the most terrible thing that you can do to another human being and there are no penalties. Try walking your dog on a San Diego beach smoking a Cuban cigar and you will have private citizens and the governement after your $ss.
Hey Bkarl, would it be possible for you to add your history to your sig line. It helps a lot when you are trying to help someone but can't recall their situation?
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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No she is not at home, she is at work. Can't trust anything anymore! I moved 1500 miles away from this ****** ahole and this is what I get. Time for me to pack my stuff for a few days. This is going to crush my son! I just can't disrupt his life any further.
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BK....I'm a little bit worried about your state of mind chere. I think you should call the suicide hotline. 1-800-SUICIDE I don't want to see all this anger turned inward. I also don't think you should confront this issue until you calm down. Do you have friend you can call to come....or are you safe to drive yourself to someone else's house that you trust?
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your not willing to play along with the im you might find out that she hasnt spoke to him
and if thats the case tell him to not contact you no more
she might not even know
do it
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you do know that you can go into the messenger and read the history, don't you?
That would show if they have corresponded in the past.
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On Yahoo IM, if you stay logged in, someone who hasn't spoken to you in years could send a message. If you are not there to answer, the window will stay up until you come home. Are you sure she even saw it? Be mad at him, go on her Yahoo IM and block him. I recommend that if she has been working on your M, take a deep breath and relax. You are having a fight/flight response to his message and she may have no clue that he wrote her. You said yourself that he said she had not written in awhile.
Things may be okay, just calm down and ask her if she knows he tried to contact her, don't destroy all your hard work unnecessarily.
FBH - FWW had EA in May 1999 (Discovered, recovered)
FWH - I had PA in Aug 2004
Confessed to PA - July 17, 2006
In Recovery, forgiven and working to earn it.
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I agree with Ahnold,
Block his IM address... your W should have already done this.
Check the history, and when you calm down a little give your W a call. It's possible she has no idea. She should change her email address immediately.
Go for a brisk walk to clear your head... you have a right to be upset, but don't assume anything about your W until you get the facts... check the IM history and give her a call.
((BK))
Me: FWW (34)
H: BS (35)
Together 12 years, no children (yet)
LTA: 3 years
D-Day: Sept. 13, 2005 (I confessed)
So blessed, thankful and happy for my wonderful H...
"God lives in the gathering of saints."
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There is nobody and I mean NOBODY on the face of this earth worth killing youself over. That has happened in my life before and I will never wreak that kind of ****** upon another! You know, I hear more than once that God will never give us more than we can handle! And I believe that! Does he just give us enough to make us misebable for the rest of our lives. I am so glad my daughter has become the forgiving and compassionate young woman that she is. Maybe that is why I have been tasked with the misery I have been handed. Something will come out of this. I will have a daughter that I will cheerish for the rest of my life. I see greazt things for her! She is truley a wonderful young woman!
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god dont give us more than we can handle
its the way we handle what he gives that will change for the good..
answer the im and see if he talks about anything recent then tell him to [censored]
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BK, I can just feel how much pain your in... it must feel like Dday all over again... I'm so sorry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> That being said, you really don't sound rational right now. I'm happy that you are so proud of your daughter... you are lucky to have a wonderful DD to love. However, let's get back to the task at hand. What are you going to do about this IM? What is your plan?
Me: FWW (34)
H: BS (35)
Together 12 years, no children (yet)
LTA: 3 years
D-Day: Sept. 13, 2005 (I confessed)
So blessed, thankful and happy for my wonderful H...
"God lives in the gathering of saints."
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It's brought back all the anger from before it seems. I recommend finding some kind of outlet to help you get that out of you. Run, walk, bike, or just go shoot some pool. Clear your head, count your blessings, and think through things logically once the emotion is spent. You will be okay, it's probably just that dude, and not your W based on what you told us.
FBH - FWW had EA in May 1999 (Discovered, recovered)
FWH - I had PA in Aug 2004
Confessed to PA - July 17, 2006
In Recovery, forgiven and working to earn it.
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Up at the top of YM, click on Contacts, then go down to Message Archive. If it is enabled, you can see offline messages, and often even whole conversations.
If it is not enabled, it should give you a prompt to be able to enable it. If not, let me know and I'll guide you to the other place you can fix it.
Believe me, I know this is hard, but my recommendation (seconding the excellent posts above) is that until/unless you can find out for sure that your W has done wrong, slow down and see what you can find out before you act.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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