Warning - vent ! rant !
The story in short:
As far as a recovering CA can be angry - I'm really pi$$ed at my boss and I'm going to quit my job of 16 years.
The current boss is the third boss I've had on this job.
I got along just fine with the first two, in fact I've always gotten along fine with all of my bosses and co-workers.
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Our firm has different offices all over the country.
I started in office A where OW also worked.
In fact, we became good friends at that time.
I was on a break after having had miscarriages etc. when D-Day came and I found out about OW/BF's A with my H.
So when I got an offer to work at office B, I took it.
My replacement kept the job at office A.
Later it turned out that OW treated my replacement so badly, giving her all the sort of jobs she didn't like doing herself (where they really have the exact same job) that this girl left the firm.
She was replaced.. and the replacement, a really wonderful hard working woman, recently also quit for the same reasons..
So we're unto replacement #3 by now.
Seems OW hasn't gotten out of her selfish "I need this, I have a right to it" attitude that got her involved with my XWH in the first place.
I have little contact with OW and work with an excellent team at office B, that really appreciates me, so I didn't go "all the way" and didn't quit my job at that firm all together.
OW is very sorry for what she did and is always very friendly and respectful towards me.
Good for her - she probably knows I might not be much of a CA if she ever drops the nice act.
Expose OW at work and get her kicked out you say?
Read on, you'll understand why that won't work.
But you're right - not really a good situation, even when WH now is XWH.
Our boss works from office C mainly.
This guy is getting on everyone's nerves.
He makes bad business decisions, does things without forethought or real planning.
In fact he's ruining the firm by bad management. Unfortunately he's very good at blame shifting, and things will probably have to go from bad to worse before HE is replaced or leaves himself.
He is the GM in our 25-person firm, so all business has to go through him, financial/HR etc.
But he doesn't know the first thing about HR, giving jobs to people who are inexperienced and not using the in-house resources (like me, who has been at the cradle of most every administrative aspect of the firm, so to speak).
I talked to him about this, but it seems it went into one ear and out the other, since he has made no changes, in fact he's hired someone else to do the sort of things I have 16 years experience at.
What makes the whole thing especially stingy for me is that on top of all this, he's having an A - doing the whole fence-sitting, cake-eating thing.
His W found out: he lived with OW for 3 months, then went back to BW and kids, but is still seeing OW.
In fact one of my colleagues at office C told me the cleaning lady sees OW every Friday evening, as she comes over to boss's workplace after closing hours - yuck.
Exposing to his superiors (we're part of a holding) wouldn't be much use as he has friends there who have the "nudge nudge wink wink" attitude towards A's. They know but don't really care.
What really did it for me was that in a recent confrontation with the responsible person of office B (my work place) our boss stated that I "should mind the business office B and nothing else". What brought this on was that I helped correct a few very serious mistakes at office C.
I didn't tell boss about the mistakes his secretary made, but obviously she tried to cover herself by doing some blame shifting herself.
That really was the last drop for me.
My co-worker from office B has become a dear friend to me and she's on holidays all month.
I'm filling in for her (we're both part-timers).
So I'm not going to spoil her holiday, but come September I'm resigning.
***vent over****
