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Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments eav1967 #1724671 08/06/06 04:31 PM
Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 4,138 E eav1967 Member
eav1967 Member E Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 4,138	ps Jennifer Harley said to me (and i believe it's in SAA) that if my H loved me once, he CAN love me again even if he isn't feeling that he loves me now maybe THAT is what the HARLEY's KNOW and believe

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments eav1967 #1724672 08/06/06 04:43 PM
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Trix Member T Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 2,023	I got the "I love you but I am not 'in love' with you" talk when he was in luuuvvvv with OW..his 'soulmate' at the time. He is now ashamed of how he was while in his A(s). He now has a better understanding of real love and commitment. Last edited by Trix; 08/06/06 04:49 PM. Married 1976 Me:BS Him:FWS MB Weekend March 2003 2 S's: '77 & '80, 1 D: '82

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Trix #1724673 08/06/06 04:48 PM
Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 27,069 San Diego County B believer Member
believer Member B Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 27,069 San Diego County	My WH continued to tell me he loved me for three years. Now we are getting divorced. I know that no one will ever love him like I loved him. But there finally came a time when I was no longer willing to waste my love on him.

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments believer #1724674 08/06/06 04:52 PM
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Trix Member T Joined: Mar 2003 Posts: 2,023	That time was close to coming for me had he not pulled his head out...in the nick of time. I had pretty much had it by the insult and disgust I felt by his betrayal of that additional A. Married 1976 Me:BS Him:FWS MB Weekend March 2003 2 S's: '77 & '80, 1 D: '82

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments committedandlovi #1724675 08/06/06 05:10 PM
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eav1967 Member E Joined: Jul 2005 Posts: 4,138	Pittman syas that for somein a romantic affair, reality doesn't hit them until after they D the BS and marry the OP....then it hits them hard i hope that's not what's needed in my case cause i'm trying to stall any divorce filings for as long as i am still wanting to wait for sanity to find my H

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Shaden #1724676 08/06/06 05:45 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote I realize that Pep and others are just expressing their feelings today... and whether they are right or wrong sometimes doesn't matter... that it helps to express the feelings. Shaden That's about right Switzerland .... I have just discovered I have another vulnerability that I did not know I had sort of surprising after all this time on MB probably good for me to get this hurt every now and then sharpens the tools, or sompin' .... >shrug< , I donno I think I want to take a 2X4 to my own head not really but perhaps mind-altering drugs? not really something is giving me the willies <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> & I can't quite put my finger on what it is system failure spark plugs not firing I am really tired of hand-wringing over duplicity and marriage terrorism really tired Pep LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Pepperband #1724677 08/07/06 12:07 PM
Joined: Aug 1999 Posts: 15,284 J Just Learning Member
Just Learning Member J Joined: Aug 1999 Posts: 15,284	Pep, What is up? Can you explain what has you so down? God Bless, JL

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Just Learning #1724678 08/13/06 09:36 AM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Quote Pep, What is up? Can you explain what has you so down? God Bless, JL It gets me down when I try like heck to be REAL here ... only to be shatupon by imposters & posers who are sincerely disingenuous and fully corrupt ... some of whom use ~admiration~ to weasel kudos from long-timers such as ourselves. HOWZ DAT big guy? Pep vs poop <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Pepperband #1724679 08/13/06 10:41 AM
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TogetherAlone Member T Joined: Sep 2002 Posts: 1,584	Pep, it's thanks to long-timers like yourself that the board has some protection from the imposters and poseurs who abuse the 'service'. It's only the familiarity with posting styles and language that allows the vets to spot recurring trouble-makers. Can I say thank-you, without sparking your kudos-seeking alarm? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> TA "Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people." - Spencer Johnson

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments TogetherAlone #1724680 08/13/06 10:49 AM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	kiss to TA LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Pepperband #1724681 08/14/06 12:25 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	^for JL to see I finally answered his Q^ LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Pepperband #1724682 08/14/06 06:43 PM
Joined: Aug 1999 Posts: 15,284 J Just Learning Member
Just Learning Member J Joined: Aug 1999 Posts: 15,284	Hi Pep, I see your message. I agree. I am been pondering how much ot the unrest on this site lately has been generated by all of this going on. I am getting a very ugly answer in my own head about this. Hope you are feeling better. Is that why you have shed the tread? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> JL

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Just Learning #1724683 08/14/06 07:01 PM
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Pepperband Member P Joined: Oct 2000 Posts: 35,996 Shrek's Swamp	Naw.... well, sort of >shrug< ... I decided to get nekkid when MB was just too stooooopid for words yesterday .... my way of making myself ( and others ? ) laff .... and being honest I was HURT my very own actual feelings and because I have so many posts logged to my name, I not supposed to get hurt and I am supposed to be "nice" & use polite & caring words when I am being intentionally misused I wanted to kick OWL in his cajones earlier he made me so angry WAT & Neak & Mimi gave me a slap to 'da head .... and I went all mellow ( dang it ) Why did God make me Irish is he wasn't intending me to use it? .... talk to God about this, would ya? ... and then get back to me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Pep LINK ~~> Carrot/Stick of Plan A LINK ~~> Buyers/Renters/Freeloaders

Re: What Harley KNOWS and KiwiJ’s comments Pepperband #1724684 08/14/06 07:55 PM
Joined: Aug 1999 Posts: 15,284 J Just Learning Member
Just Learning Member J Joined: Aug 1999 Posts: 15,284	Pep, Well the answer is...He made you Irish to test you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I think your failing Pep is that you are far too succinct. If you were a wordy as I am, they would not quote you so much. Heck, they go to sleep about half way through my posts. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> A bit more verbosity (sp) and you won't be quoted so much, THUS...less misquotes. See isn't life easy? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Now put your clothes on young lady. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> God Bless, JL

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