TO me and my values you are not married when you are divorced.

A legal separation in a contract for financial and children responsiblities.

In a separation you still can share health bebfits, taxes etc.....

I am legally separated and to me it is NOT A DIVORCE and WW thinks it is ok to move on.

Morally to God and children and to anyone who has ethics will see that it is an AFFAIR.... unless you are divorced by law......

Remember when you are in a relationship you are bond by two things law and moral values

I strongly feel that people are married until they are
divorced (not just saying they are going to get divorced
like my WH, and not having just filed the paperwork, but
100pct final, complete and legally divorced).

Until then, whether seperated legally or not, I don't
believe married people should be dating or otherwise
involved with another person, and if they are, it's an
AFFAIR !

I think those having the affairs and their partners often
try to use this as a "loophole" or excuse to justify or
make their affair look like it's an actual relationship
or they are girlfriend/boyfriend rather than wanting to
admit or have it know for what it actually is.

Such is the case with my WH and OW- they met on the
internet where he told her a totally ficticious story about
our marriage and circumstances, including that we had been
seperated and him filed D paperwork before he ever met her-
(neither of which were true). She "bought it", so believes
that she is "rescuing" him from his terrible and unhappy
marriage and horrible wife, and that him being "seperated"
makes it "okay" and not an affair.

Slammed

AGREED 100%

Just to clear something up - I was NOT talking about people D'ing because of an A. That is whole other issue..

No doubt. But this is the infedelity board and that is my mindset here.