To All the wonderful folks here in MB Land,

I want the house outright!!!
Why shouldn't I!!! There is a part of me that says come and get me in litigation if you "think" you can get it otherwise...hand it over bud. Your the WS...you've put me and our boys through H**l why should you get our home. I've been the SAHM, the homemaker, housekeeper...It is and issue of TURF...NESTING...PRIDE...can you put a price on that....how about fighting for it in litigation then...you'll have to wrestle it away from me...OR MAKE ME AN OFFER THAT IS REASONABLE!!!! I'm not going to be the poor relation. Heck NO...WHY, WHY should he and OW get all my toil, love, energy and creativity I've put into our home???? The hours, days, weeks, months...? HUH??? WHY??? It is in both our names..only he originally received it from his grandmother and then put it in both our names. THIS IS BS...AS THE MOM I SHOULD AND THE DEDICATED SPOUSE AND HOMEMAKER>>>I SHOULD GET TO STAY HERE PERMANETLY!!!

anyone care to comment???

Strongest

word of advice.

call 3 different realtors NOW...... and get three market analysis' done to see exactly what it is worth at this point. DO NOT GUESS...you will be very surprised.

Closer to the time of court hearing have them come out and do it again. Do not just take 1 anaysis to you to court. My ex said he didnt want our house, but when push came to shove he showed up to court with a market analysis that showed our house was almost double what it really was worth.

The agent was a friend of his WAS NEVER IN OUR HOUSE. He claimed 5 bedrooms (at the time there was officially only 3. 1 bedroom he claimed was an unfinished room in the basement that my oldest slept in for a brief time. 1 bedroom was an unfinished bedroom on the second floor. He also claimed the property is 1 acre when it was only 1/2. I ended up splitting the difference of his lies. I got a third analysis to show the court but it was too late and once again ex got away with his lies.

When I had the first one done he told the kids I didnt have to do that cause he already did. yeah right!!! Then I would have paid for the total of his lies.

Keep the house, you deserve it. My house has a history with my family so I was really glad I was able to keep it in the long run.

Strongest... I've read some of your other posts along with this one. I'm not a lawyer but I wanted to just throw out here, you may be sadly suprised at how little the court cares about who did what and when. They just do not care about A's. This may not be true in your particular state but I doubt it. Their goal is to look at everything you have and try to set you both up as equittably as possible. You may even find that he could force a sale of the house and take 50% equity if you don't agree. Talk to a lawyer if you haven't already. Best of luck

Peter.

I know this was a gut-wrenching decision, but hopefully now that you've made it you feel better! You have a direction to go in, which is usually the biggest problem. [color:"blue"] Sunrise [/color] was right, get a market analysis by several people. I even had an appraiser come to my house(it cost about $350 but I felt it would hold up better in court). You don't need to tell your kids or H about any of this, either. If you keep the house, you can sell it on YOUR timetable (if you want), and not because you're forced to because of divorce.

You should be able to buy out his share of the house to do whatever you want, depending on your title papers. (Did [color:"blue"]Mr. W [/color] help with that?) But guard yourself to possibly catch some flack from your H. We'll pray he remains in the fog when it comes to your home. I hope you can both work out this settlement reasonably.

I do know this much, here in Georgia the spouse can just stop making payments on the house and let it get foreclosed with little or no consequences.

They do it all the time here to nuke their ex-wives that are trying to get the house in a divorce.

Thank you Sunrise 1,Peter AC500,avondale25, and Pariah,

All of you are giving me "food for thought!" OK. So here is my fickle mind/heart or better yet....how about my ever growing mind/heart...I don't really care so much anymore about the house. I don't know what happened exactly...only I just let it go...like my WS...I'm over it already (Gee, I got over the house a lot faster then I did the WS)...the house that is. I wouldn't mind being in it...I wouldn't mind not being in it...as a matter of fact THERE is a lot of reasons to NOT be in it. Anyway...now I don't feel emotionally invested in it...If I move out eventually the boys and I could have a grand old time picking out a new "HOME."

Thanks for all your input...I don't really want court, judges and anger...I just want to move on with a fresh start...I want resolution...whatever house I'm in.

Strongest