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Last edited by redbonefromla; 08/07/06 05:24 PM.
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Can you give us some information, redbone... so we know how to help.
What is going on that has made your H think you have cheated?
Shaden
BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.
Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.
FAITH REQUIRES ACTION!
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we need more details.
how long have you been married?
why does he think you cheated?
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You washed them (hand washing) and there was still a "you know what smell" Sorry, but I do not get this part but it doesn't matter.
The next statement you made matters.
"Based on me not being that open in our relatinship, which is my fault"
Learn the MB concepts (Policy of radical honesty, policy of joint agreement) and start living them in your relationship. It's not the dirty undies that has caused this problem.
SKB.
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me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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Peach,
Your comment was not helpful.
Perhaps this person just learned about MB and never realized that living together was a rental agreement.
Why not explain to her what you mean instead of just making a statement like that.
Let us NOT be judge and jury to anyone.
SKB.
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Get into couseling now, so that you know what you are in for latter. this is a pretty flimsy reason for him to be so convinced of your infidelity. it could be that he is looking for an excuse to play around himself. or he could have severe jeolousy problems.
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Demonstrate it to him, open up all your personal info. If you are honest, then you shouldn't have to even think about it.
Honey, here is my cell phone bills.
Honey, here is my email passwords.
Honey, here are my gas station bills.
Honey, here is my dining out bills.
Show him who is calling you and who you are calling. Account for each minute for the 'timeframe' in question.
The real issue here is that he even would suspect it. I think there is a whole lot more to this story than 'you haven't been open'. Are you a flirt? Do you give him reason to worry? Do you work in an environment that would cause him to feel threatened?
9 years now ... and some days you still say grrr!
Hang in there.
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