Having blackopal taking a position against me... and questioning my motives.. make me KNOW I am on the right course. ******, if CS comes here next and criticizes my postings, I will feel vindicated. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey, Suzet...

I think I'm going to invite an American friend over for dinner this evening...

What is something uniquely South African that I could whip up fast!

Ah, heck...it's getting late...

"Having blackopal taking a position against me... and questioning my motives.. make me KNOW I am on the right course. ******, if CS comes here next and criticizes my postings, I will feel vindicated. "

I think that is very foolish of you. However, if a course of self destruction and causing as much damage to the people around you as possible, on the basis of your own bitterness is on your agenda, then I am not surprised by your stance.
I will not attempt to deter you. The basic idea when a car is about to go over a cliff at 90 mph, is to move out of the way and let it go. Enjoy the fall, enjoy the impact, you are plainly he11bent on it.

I thought you had me on "ignore" BTW...

Good day.

I'm reading this and probably should stay out of it. But I was wondering...

MEDC, you aren't married. Why are you spending so much time on a marriage building website?

I'm not trying to make you mad. I'm just curious.

Thanks-
090886

PS Yes please Suzet- come to the recovery section. I'd like your opinion on my thread "Protecting Weaknesses" when you have time. You helped me before. Thanks in advance.

Hey,
really no major beef with you .....but this ain't quite the whole truth (IMO).

To cut to the chase:
MBers principles state that NC should be complete and FOR LIFE!

With that said,
you HAVE come on to a few threads (in which a poster is asking about whether or Not they or spouse should continue to WORK With OP) .....and in such threads you've pointed to your OWN situation as one Example where it CAN work out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Yes,
you've stated that it is NOT the ideal ........BUT then in the next breathe Stated that it CAN work out [be managed] for those that FEEL they have No other alternative.

Not going to fight about what choices someone has or not .......just that FOR you to be YELLING over and over that you have " never " or In any Way advised against MBer principles (at least to Me) is just a little OFF the mark.

Its too bad really,
cause some of those folks (at least from what I've seen) don't post here anymore.
So they perhaps went away feeling justified and OK in their Poor decisions ....and yet NOW haven't SEEN where your choices (like limited contact) have lead you.

Anyway,
just needed to add that tid bit.
Please continue to Do what you Need to to have a happy/healed fullfilling marriage.

090886 lots of people on here aren't married

you can find the answers in my history.

BO... if you read the thread.. I cleared out my ignore feature as I decided to fight the fight rather than give up the hill. As far as your words... they are very amusing.

"090886 lots of people on here aren't married"

That's right. They must have stayed at a holiday inn last night.

" As far as your words... they are very amusing."


Laugh sad clown, laugh.

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"That's right. They must have stayed at a holiday inn last night."

what does that mean?

I stated a fact. A lot of people on here are not married.

“Let us not overstrain our talents, for if we do we shall do nothing with grace; a clown, whatever he may do, will never pass for a gentleman”

-Jean de la Bruy

Of course, if that were your intention, you would say a great deal less.

Plainly you are spoiling for an agrument. Or maybe you are just spoiled in some way....someone take away his bowl of lemons, his habitual sucking of them has soured his outlook on life.

This was in direct reference to the filthy name MEDC called me in another thread.
He knows what I am talking about.

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"That's right. They must have stayed at a holiday inn last night."

what does that mean?

I stated a fact. A lot of people on here are not married. "

Yes, you stated a fact, but for some reason they think married people should take their advice. If they were posing as a doctor or lawyer and handing out "advice", in many cases they would end up in jail for their pretense.
And that is also a fact.
Do they have a right to their oopinion? Obviously. However to feel they also have the right bully people in marriages..well maybe they should get married first before setting themslves up as great protectors of "marriage buuilders".
It is, to me, a laughable stance.

BO...

It is better to be quiet and thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

I have no doubts about you.