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I caught this Bill Moyers Faith and Reason episode last week and found it to be very enlightening. Others here may find it of interest too, forgiveness and personal recovery after an A are discussed in this interview along with some other very interesting concepts.


http://www.pbs.org/moyers/print/faithandreason107_print.html


BS 42 WS 39 WH ONS 04/97 and EA ???-08/00 D-day for both 08/00 -Life is 10% what you make it...90% how you take it-
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Interesting.

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BILL MOYERS: Your husband came home one day and said he was having an affair--

PEMA CHÖDRÖN: That's right. That's--

BILL MOYERS: He wanted a divorce, right?

PEMA CHÖDRÖN: That's right.

BILL MOYERS: And what did you do?

PEMA CHÖDRÖN: The first thing that happened, I had sort of an epiphany. Or I say in the book, I think, like a genuine spiritual experience which happens to people at a time of shock. Like car accidents and things. Which was time stood still. There was a completely timeless moment where all I saw was a light and heard the sounds. And it was like an eternal moment, you know? And then the mind came back. And I picked up a stone and threw it at him.


Stone him!!!

That's the only part that made me smile a bit.

The rest made me think..........

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Wow Wat,

Did you take a speed reading course?

I saw the show and it still took me half an hour to read through the entire transcript.

I recently changed my sig line to read that life is 10% what you make it and 90% how you take...I had already drawn the conclusion that while you cannot stop terrible things from happening...you can not only survive but thrive IF you choose to dwell on the postives in life rather than the negative.

The difference between happy postive people and bitter angry people has always intruigued me. I used to believe that the happy people must have led charmed lives....I now understand that was a false assumption. Terrible things happen to everyone, but some people are better able to weather the storm, put things into perpective and then put it behind them. Recently I read a post of yours about your son`s illness and death and I was struck by that....your ability to but into perspective and then find peace with it. I was in awe.

I did learn something new in the interview...I am the type of person who is always angry with someone or something...right now my issue is my son`s education and the public school system`s inability to accomodate his dyslexia. I know I am going about this the wrong way because my buttons are getting pushed and I am in attack mode. I think I could change my thinking here...but the trick is how to do that when you deal people who are in attack mode themselves? Unfortunately this is not an issue I can walk away from or just let be.


BS 42 WS 39 WH ONS 04/97 and EA ???-08/00 D-day for both 08/00 -Life is 10% what you make it...90% how you take it-

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