This is from the OM blog on myspace about his pending divorce

Lawyers... How I love them. I finally met with one today and it went well. It sounds as if things will work out. My ex-wife and I should be able to agree on things without much cost. Only issue exists and heck yea its over money. Isnt it always! Its nothing we cant talk about. My ex is clearly scared of the future. I am as well but I think I can deal with my cheese being moved better than she can. We all deal with things in our own ways. I worry though. She was very emotional today. While not IN love with her I still love her and care for her. She is the mother of my children. My heart belongs to someone else however. But thats a story for another day.

Can anyone analyze this?

OM has a myspace acct? Is he 19? If you're in love with someone else....why are you reading his myspace anyway? My analysis....you've moved on....so really move on.

I'm sorry, VR...

I agree with Star, this is very childish.

He sounds like a teenage boy... he's in for a hard fall.

Stop reading there if you can... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

WW is 32 and He is 34 getting ready for his divorce.

This is just one of many things I see between them that are like this, I think they are both going for a fall but that is just my wishful thinking

I am at the point where this is almost therapy seeing how they are acting and that they are not operating in reality

now my wife and kids are here in NC and he is in NY, they say they will keep their relationship long distance until they're kids are grown so not to split families.... to me this sounds like him keep my WW as a girlfriend and not wanting another family around his single ways

Oh, c'mon post his MySpace name up here for us (Evil Grin) We wanna post to him....LOL, just kidding.

I am 38 and my space is definitely a place for the VERY young....not the 30-somethings.

I have been there on occasion....but more to check on my daughter's MySpace page than anything else.

God Bless,

-Caren

Be assured...once he's single and on his own he may VERY likely move on to greener, more local, pastures.

You may even be able to hire a PI to follow him and bust him cheating on your WW in the not so distant future.

Don't know the whole story...but OM being single and "waiting till the kid's are grown" in a long distance complicated relationship does not bode well for a relationship already built on sand.

Mr. Wondering

I agree I keep just seeing this turning bad for WW... I still love her and would work on M if possible but she has this thing of self entitlement right now, I am FWS I had 3 ONS over the marriage and she is addicted to affection and attention. Now this OM is probably in a situation where a old flame is now in place and they are raging like young teens but yeah I believe he is a serial cheater - thus the divorce on his side.

I know i have to wait 6 months to 2 years to see how this plays out I just would love to fast forward and see.

She is so absorbed in the OM that our kids are feeling it while she stays home with them. I am trying to get the house sold so I can get out of the same house as she.

Right now her entitlement is that she hasn't worked for the 5months we have been separated... we still live in the same house.

I am moving out at the end of the month and she has to find a place soon I am at the point of turning the house back to the bank to get her gone.

MySpace is for children. Any "adult" who has any kind of information up there, other than an advertisement for the next rave party, is also a child. So sorry to hear your "significant" has a myspace account.

okay to be honest I created a myspace in a attempt to be cool and to counter what I was feeling...but that child is no more and I have more important things to do..... like raise 3 daughters.... same ones that come to me now more than her.

I do feel pain reading their stuff but its also therapy truly is because I read wonderful post her about fog and affairs and these two are playing straight out of the handbook, they are like greek actors playing out a tragedy, again I may be only hoping, they could live happy ever after.

I don't know but I know I have 3 things I love more than the world and that is what matters, I just want to re-affirm what I am seeing so thanks

Just remember this:::: log onto myspace to check out what your DAUGHTERS are posting. If you want to use it as a screening process for adult males, then use this: any MAN with a myspace is not in the pool.

BTW, my daughter is NINE, and her friends are getting Myspace. Mine will get hers OVER MY DEAD BODY.

viking....thanks! I'm removing this so nobody gets confused from my confusion. LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Sorry star... that is the post from the OM myspace page. 3 years ago I had 3 ONS and I am very sorry and remorseful for it all. I am focused on my family.

6 to 2 years is what I hear is the time it takes for an affair relationship to burn out or become real.

My wife has has 4 iapproriate EA relationships over the past year, this 5th one is with a guys she dated before we wer married, they are now soulmates been soulmates the whole time and are leaning on each other through this whole ordeal both his divorce and our separation and divorce.

So everything in the original post is from the OM.

Now an update, my wifes enabling friend called last night at 9:30 I didn't bother to answer the phone, however my wife talked to her. About 10 my oldest daughter who was watching tv with WW came upstairs. She told me tomorrow I get the girls all day???? I have to work, where was she going to be?
I thought maybe a job interview, maybe looking at new residence? NO NO NO, my daughter finally told me she is gong to Ozzfest (a rocket concert) with her girlfriend

Now she hasn't asked me or anything, how much more self entitlement can one person have?

((VikingRuler))

I'm so sorry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

I know you think looking at OM's myspace account is therapeutic, but please stop. It will keep you on an unhealthy, unstable emotional rollercoaster as long as you keep doing it.

Be assured that the A will crash and burn just based on the little blogging you've witnessed so far. OM is incredibly immature and self-focused. I am willing to bet your W is acting the way she is in response to his narcissistic behavior. This is beyond a disaster waiting to happen, so make peace with it and remove myspace from your bookmarks.

Also, and I mean this with all due respect, don't try and educate your W by giving her things like Orchid's post. See what she did with it? She is absolutely incapable of self-reflection right now, and she will only turn your good intentions around into something to harm you.

Keep posting here... being here will heal you. Taking care of your family will heal you.

I hope you didn't stay home to look after your girls while your W goes to a concert that she just informed you about at 9:30 last night. This is BOGUS and NOT OKAY.

How are things going this morning?

Katie Mae

Does the OM's W know about his my space account? Maybe she can use some of that info in her divorce proceedings. If you are in NC, isn't there some type of alienation of affection law or something of that sort with which you could sue this man and use his my space blogs as evidence? I don't know if NC is a no-fault divorce state or not, but with alienation laws, it seems like they wouldn't be no-fault. If I were you, I would print out all of the blogs and put them in a file in case they are of some use in court down the road. Their relationship has DOOM written all over it.

Thank you all for the affirmation and I am at peace today with this all, I know I need to stop focusing on the WW situation and over time I have become a lot less attached.

We had to go to the orthodontist today for my older, I sat in a chair with my back to her and she sat reading a book.... While I was checking on our other daughters in the play area she checked her blackberry (OM provided her a blackberry and a phone for him to call her) well when I got back she was all laughs and haha, I don't think she knows I have access to her gmail account and the only email received was from her lawyer stating the retainer for legal action would be 5K - she wont work so I don't know what is so funny about that.... I think it was for my benefit.

Hello WW lawyer, this is WW we met on July 26 for a consultation... You said it would be easier for me to get in touch with you through email so that is what I am doing.. I had called the office today and left a message. It is very urgent that I get up with you. I would like to retain you as my lawyer. Things are getting hairy and he is trying to pull some stuff. Like the agreement does not matter... He is not paying the mortgage, has gone out and put a deposit on an apartment for himself.. Wants to short sell the house. He wants to have shared 50/50 custody. He wants to give me half his stock options but than today said I would have to choose between that or child support because he now can't afford to send them to school. Than he said he would give me 2/3 of the half to pay for school.
Why not out of his half of the stocks... He is totally back tracking on everything. And he does not want to pay what he agreed to which was 1500 a month for 3 children.. I think at this point with him not paying the mortgage and it nearing foreclosure and him looking out for himself I think I want to go for full custody. He can't provide financial stability.. I have had it. This is how it has been our whole marriage.. He is not good with money and we have been living pay check to pay check.. He makes over 140,000 dollars a year. Yet the house is nearing foreclosure the tractor was nearly repoed he can't afford school now but he can take the girls to the beach and stay over night and buy them whatever they want and so on and so forth...
Thank you for your time and let me know how much I need to retain you..
WW
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This has already been passed onto my lawyer.

Just looking for some analsist.

I am being very dark to my WW even though we are in the same house still. We had a doctors appt today for one of our daughters and I sat with my back to her in the office.

I think she is getting scated on my pending departure or frustrated that I am not being playing nice with her.

What a greedy, grubby harpie.

Send her to the bottom aflame.

So WW went and saw her lawyer today I don't know how it went but she gets a certified letter from my lawyer tomorrow.... let the games begin

So the latest post of OM on his myspace is....

"$725 per month for 3 kids. Your... on... crack!"

So I am taking 50/50 custody of the kids and the wife is telling everyone that she is going to get a job making 13$ an hour as a pharmacy tech - which she has to recertify for, which she is barely studing for.

Anyways, the state guideline says I would owe her 535$ a month and I told my lawyer to offer 725.

Now he is posting this to bait me and to show his what? maturity?

Well I just printed the page out and added it to my folder.

Best thing you can do is stay away from myspace for the rest of your life. None of this is helpful to your cause.