Hi all! Well the OW has been living with her husband for the last month. I wondered if this was a new tactic in the war. I talked to her husband on the weekend, and he said it is because she doesn't have enough money to pay for gas to get to work from WH's house (8 miles farther than her husband's house).

So, I've been wondering about that. But I've been very busy working OT (to buy cows in Mexico), and sort of forgot about it.

Last night WH called and wanted to meet me to discuss the "bottom line". I told him to let me know what it will take to get him out of my life. (Ooops, big LB)

He then explained that he is done with his craziness, and would like to work on saving the marriage.

It's kind of like if you suddenly walked off your job, and 3 and a half years later, came back to work. And not only that, but you weren't that great of a worker in the first place.

Just thought I would let everyone know, that yes, affairs usually do end. I'll post more if I hear any details, but I doubt that I will. OW and WH have been very secretive from the start.

What news, Believer!!

Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't you give WH's motorcycle to OW's BH? Maybe OW is just in love with the bike. LOL!


Seriously, though, how does this sit with you? What is your response to his decision to "come back to work?"

Me, I'm in shock from this news.

Believer, my dear,

""busy working OT (to buy cows in Mexico)""

WWWHHHHAAAAAT???

I read this....read it again....and then burst out laughing. Does he really think you've been waiting for him all this time? That you're interested in taking him back? Ya know....for years I've told my friends who were hurt "in time....they ALL come back". Some take longer than others....but sooner or later you're the one who gets to make the choice. Problem is....most of the time....you don't want them anymore."

Most humorsome! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Let's see, assuming her car gets 16mpg, that's an extra gallon of petrol a day? 15 bucks or so a week? Yep, that's a LOT of money, LOL!!! Might as well break up with the AP!


Can we have some wonder tonic now? (sorry, couldn't resist!)


How convenient! LOL!!!

-ol' 2long

Great!! Tell him to go ahead and get started working on it -- you'll catch up to him later (much later).

Mys

Wow.

.........just,

Wow.

So, is OW's H interested in rebuilding with this gas saving tree hugger? I hope he's charging her rent. Seems that would cost more than the gas.

I guess she IS helping to reduce global warming a bit......

WAT

Maybe he heard about your buying those cows for Mexico and thought you'd need some fresh bull.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /><img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

t&l

Stonecold - I didn't think about the Harley angle, but the affair did start as soon as we bought the new bike. Maybe THAT is what she liked about my WH.

Krusht - I work in contracts and have been working weekends. Am buying pregnant dairy cows for a church family in Mexico. So far I bought 2. Just sort of a giving back thing.

Star - You know, even I tell people here that the affair always ends. But I thought this one might be the exception.

2long - Keep hanging in there. Miracles happen.

Myschae - I guess he was counting on what I wrote in the Plan B letter three years ago.

WAT - I talked to OW's husband, and he thinks that she has moved back to save gas. I don't believe it. She is there on the weekends too. She is probably trying to save face. He says he will never take her back, but who knows?

T&L - Someone did mention that there needed to be some bull in there somewhere to start a dairy herd.

Heh. I hope you know what I wrote was supposed to be tongue in cheek. Like -- "Go ahead and start without me..."

Honestly, did you manage to keep a straight face?

Mys

believer

is there any chance that you want to restore your marraige?

ps

i'm someone who is so glad to hear that most affairs, even those that have lasted this long, can still end and the WS may still want to reconcile.

i too think my h's affair is the exception

You know, I was quite friendly with him. It is easy when you are done.

I'm still kind of curious about what happened, but will probably never find out.

Thank goodness for MB and all of the folks here who pulled me through this mess.

i think we were posting at the same time....so i did just read your response that you are done with your XH.

I've been writing people that most of them come back. It looks like Believer's husband is on the same schedule my 1st wife was. She asked to come back about 3 years after the divorce that she wanted.

Notice that I wrote 1st wife.

Believer, I know you are the ultimate giver, but PLEASE tell me you had a clause or something when you gave that bike to OW's ExH. PUULEEEAAASSSSE tell me you told him he can have the bike as long as OW never rides on it.

OK, I know you're way to nice to be a conditional giver. How funny is your ExH? He's a real comedian. He's ready now to save the M? Did you say, "Well that's nice! What M are you referring to?" Oh the mind of a fogged out WS. It is a wonder to behold!

eav - Nope - don't want him in my life anymore. I told my mom that if WH had taken care of some responsibilites, stayed in contact, or done anything, I might consider trying again.

But he fell madly in love, left, blew all of our savings, didn't give me a dime, help with anything, and had very little contact. In three and a half years, I've probably spent less than 3 hours in contact with him.

Hang in there. I do believe that affairs all end. It is in the nature of how they started. Like Star said, they end, but is the BS still going to want to work on anything.

Protect yourself, enjoy your life, and don't worry about it. It can happen when you least expect it.

believer....your H's return (or desire to return) prompted me to ask a question on a new thread

RAG - Haha. Yes, he is on schedule, just held on a little longer than most. I think that was because the two of them had lots of money to blow for a long time.

CV - I haven't seen her on it yet. But you know, the bike was ruined for me three years ago. Buying an anniversary Harley had been my husband's dream. We finally did it, and I only rode on it once. He and OW rode off into the sunset. It wouldn't bother me a bit to see her riding with her HUSBAND.

So it does end - I can't believe that he wanted to discuss working on the marriage with you after all of the billsh*t he threw your way and the lack of support. I guess it shows that he thinks he is bullet proof! Maybe you should start calling him 'Teflon Man'! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Take care Believer - you know what you want and don't want and that is a good place to be.