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dear [[[[[[ B ]]]]]]
I just wish to give you a hug regardless if you need one or not. You DESERVE one. In fact a lot.
I both laughed at the effrontery and was melancholy for you that he has - I am assuming - seen the emptiness of his affair far far too late for you
I bet they woke up one day looked at each other and thought "what did I see in you"?
The lust is gone, the money spent, the fog has drifted off and all they see around them is the stark burnt out remains of 2 marriages they have destroyed.
I also thought there but for the grace of God, a loving strong H, & MB go I. Its all madness.
I just wish you a continuing and expanding happiness and fulfillment, you are in my eyes and in Aussies eyes rather special.
AW
Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.
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believer, you know I'm bad, right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> This is what I'd tell STBXH if I were in your shoes ... [color:"blue"]"Here is what I want you to do as your first step *working* on our marriage. Restore me to financial wholeness. Pay back all the $$$ you spent on your affair." [/color] ........ rubber .... meet the road Pep
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PS Believer,
Our Daughter's 8th grade graduating class bought a cow for some villagers as well! (this was 3 years ago)
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I told my mom that if WH had taken care of some responsibilites, stayed in contact, or done anything, I might consider trying again.
But he fell madly in love, left, blew all of our savings, didn't give me a dime, help with anything, and had very little contact. In three and a half years, I've probably spent less than 3 hours in contact with him. Wow Believer... hahahaha.. interesting news indeed!!! I feel the same way as you about my STBX. Especially how he had "conned" me of using my money and has caused me losses that run up to 6 digits. It's not his money, he doesn't feel the pain of how someone cld lie and get away with yr hard-earned money. Money you thought wld be enough for your retirement and saved since you started working but now have to start all over again, and especially when the employment market isn't taht great either (falling salaries, scarcity of jobs..) He has done almost NOTHING to help. Neither has he shown remorse. Good thing though, with his behaviour ... my STBX has made it v easy not to want to take him back. Still, it was most intriguing to hear about the latest development at your end. ~A
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Dear Believer, Life is a funny thing, isn't it ? I guess your XWH will have to find someone else to wash his dirty socks... Maybe you should post a new picture of yourself now on the MB photo thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Hugs, Brit from Belgium
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Know what I think? I think your X wanted to save gas money, too............
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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He then explained that he is done with his craziness, and would like to work on saving the marriage. Well, I am sure that this will include what he has to have from YOU to make it work. He will include.. No asking questions about anything that I do...I come and go as I please. Don't be getting all up in my business. I can have all the secrecy I want and need. Don't be thinking that I am going to explain what happened when I was not living with the OW that I was living with. It's none of your business. and... I want my freakin' cycle back...so get to steppin. Yep, I can see why all those conditions would make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Makes me misty-eyed just thinking about it for you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Of all the unmitigated gall...to think that he can waltz back in and you will start dancing... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> committed
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Know what I think? I think your X wanted to save gas money, too............ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> BWHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA Pep
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WH came by today to pick up his truck registration. I'd asked him to come at 6:00, but he came early. When I returned from work, he had hooked up our boat to his truck. The boat has been here since he left. I guess he decided that since I don't want him back, he will get what he can.
He just gives me the creeps. I have no respect left, and am embarrassed to be his wife. Granted, the boat is no yacht, but was nice for fishing.
I did think to ask him to please change his address so I don't get any more mail.
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believer, you know I'm bad, right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> This is what I'd tell STBXH if I were in your shoes ... [color:"blue"]"Here is what I want you to do as your first step *working* on our marriage. Restore me to financial wholeness. Pay back all the $$$ you spent on your affair." [/color] ........ rubber .... meet the road Pep I told H he owes me 3x the amount he spent....he needs to spend that much on ME and then the same amount on our son! L.
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B - You don't have to make any decisions right now. Just be smug for a while and enjoy the 'predictability' of it all. I am totally bummed about the Harley. I wish you'd donated it to your Mexican friends along with the cows.
And talking of cows, sorry that OW will be appearing in your neighbourhood again. I do think that 'out of sight, out of mind' is a great scenario for recovery.
Take care dear lady. TT
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B - You don't have to make any decisions right now. Just be smug for a while and enjoy the 'predictability' of it all. I am totally bummed about the Harley. I wish you'd donated it to your Mexican friends along with the cows.
And talking of cows, sorry that OW will be appearing in your neighbourhood again. I do think that 'out of sight, out of mind' is a great scenario for recovery.
Take care dear lady. TT Boy, I shouldn't try to speed read this late at night!?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> At 1st glance I thought TT was mad at Steve or Dr. Harley. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Then I thought u were recommending the OW be sent to Mexico with the cows?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Ok, I got it straight now..... off to bed!!! g'nite! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> L.
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