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My husband moved out 2 wks ago. He has been in an adulterous relationship for about a month and a half. He now tells me, by email, that he would like to start incorporating the OW in my 4 yr old daughter's life. He says that he understands that I want him to take some time before doing this, but he feels he has. I live in CO. Is there anything I can do legally to keep this from happening? I'm going to sit down and try to talk him out of it tonight, for my daughter's sake. He doesn't realize what he could do to her in the long run if he follows through with this. He says that he is just making me aware of his desires. The man has gotten everything he desires thus far. When do I get what I desire? The selfishness makes me crazy!!!
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Joined: Oct 2000
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Tell him you need time ... delay and stall this ... do NOT allow him to force this...
In the meanwhile ... call a FAMILY LAW attorney ... get a consult .... find out the facts of what steps YOU need to take to protect your child from adulterous OW
do not rely on WH to protect your child
he is totally UNreliable to put HER interests above his
get it done!
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See an attorney about this.
Look into a legal separation agreement and seek full custody.
If full custody isn't obtainable, I was successful in preventing my WW from having overnight pondscum while my son was in her presence.
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PS
do not tell your WH you are seeking an attorney
do this without his knowledge
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Thank you so much. I actually scheduled a free consultation with one on Wednesday. Hopefully he can give me some insight. I am just so full of anger right now!!! Satan is so evil and the way he can just consume someone is horrible. This is not the same man I married. I want him back.
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First remember he is an alien right now - not your husband.
Since you do not have a separation agreement in place your both have legal access to your child. That means he could take your son out and introduce him to OW... but it also means that you can take your child to grandmothers house for a month trip and he can only ask you to come back.... now there is legal jeporady if you stay after his request to see his child but you are in a legal grey area your both parents of the child. that is why everyone always tells pepole to protect themselves legally.
So be very careful not to allow your WH to have alone time with the child where he might introduce the OW... and get to your lawyer.
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Do a full background check on the OW. Turn up and expose every piece of crap she has and is doing.
Then let your lawyer and the police know of his intent along with proof the OW is not fit t/b around your child.
Keep it legal but don't assume the OW is trustworthy with your child's life. Let all your supporters know what he is attempting t/d and ask for their help in keeping him from exposing your child to a monsterous OW. Yep, that's what she is a monsterous OW.
L.
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