I don’t understand the entire argument about weather or not exposing A’s is beneficial or not.

In my personal situation I exposed the A to most everyone that was important to my FWW. I did this before I even knew about MB. It was instinctive.

There were two reasons why I did it at the time with an untrained MB mind.

First, it was the only way that I could get help from the people that were the most wise, loved both me and my W, and would support the efforts to recover our M.

Second, it was the balancing side of the equation where my FWW would be forced to face accountability and further understand the ramifying effects of her choice to engage in an adulterous relationship outside of our M.

If her FOM had a W or children I would have exposed to them.

But through exposure my W had to own the completeness of her actions.

She would have much rather have buried her head in the sand at the time and let the world pass her by, but after exposure it was impossible to do that.

So anyone thinking about not exposing, think twice about it.

It was probably the most useful tool in the weapons cache of MB methods that helped to smother the life out of my FWW’s A.

Exposure is simply no fun at all for everyone and lots of it.

I hope this helps someone that is thinking about it.

Back under the big rock,
Plank.