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Legally separated means nothing, Look at it I am married until divorced.
I have started to take control away, ie: che used company cc for match.com. I took her off the business account.
I feel that my children know too, that she is doing this crazy crap.
I know she will hit bottom but I have to protect my children.
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How do you have the family on my side when they feel justied in her action. They have blown my EA to a PA with SIL, but they are working on their M, because I see his car is there and I can only assume.
Maybe the part is also that I am my WW second husband....
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Friends is one thing but family?? I think it's probably hard for most parents to give their kids tough love about things like infidelity and drugs etc.
For instance- how many parents would throw their kids out and not give them any money for drugs/alcohol/or rent etc if they were using?? Not very many. But that is what they need to hit bottom and we're talking about things that will KILL them literally.
How many parents would refuse to speak to their child if they told them they were homosexual?? Probably a good bit, but not all of them.
It's the same for parents of people who have affairs. They love the kids, but hate their actions but they don't want to lose their kids by setting those boundaries.
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I will be back later tonight to talk more, have children things to do.........
Please all input is needed
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I tell you what. If I was the one having an A and I wanted to bring my OP around to have dinner with my family, they would refuse.
Last edited by LosingHim; 08/14/06 04:16 PM.
BW: me, 38;
WH: 38;
Married 16 yrs;
Together 19 yrs;
D-Day 11/06/05;
WH moved out 11/06/05;
OW was co-worker;
False recovery for 2 month
D-Day #2 3/09/06
A is ongoing
WH told me "It's over" 8/7/06
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FH... no big philosophical debate on this one... it's just right is right.... period. My friends and family do not tolerate those behaviors.... hers did for a long while... birds of a feather flock together. I am glad they have such little influence on my son at this point. Situational ethics tick me off big time.
So, that's it... nothing more, nothing less.
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Yeah but what is so funny is that the family will cry to the world about their daughter but they will bash me to get it be right in their favor.
It is amazing how I have taken some control and she falls somewhat into line.......
THEN her family condones her actions....]
Go figure
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