I'm fairly new to MB. I've read Dr. Harley's books and Love is Tough by Dobson. I even talked to Dr. Harley on the radio, but I'm feeling hurt and confused. I thought things would start to get easier by now. I started with Plan A and things seemed to be going well and then I couldn't handle it emotionally that after spending good times together my WH would go back to the OW- he has been living with her since January. I went into Plan B for 7 weeks and then he dropped me off a birthday gift. He said he missed talking to me.But now he seems even more committed to the OW and tells me he wants a future with her. Before he said he didn't want to get divorced and now he doesn't care. It feels like she has sucked him in even more. We are getting together this evening to discuss financial stuff. I feel like the world is closing in on me. I really hoped he would have come out of the fog by now. He has been in a relationship with her since last fall and they work together. I still love my husband and have let him know that I want to work on things. He has taken all his personal belongings from our home. We have lived together for 12 yrs. married 8yrs. Whenever I do see him and talk to him he cries and hugs me. I see the way he looks at me and I still feel he cares. The OW is fine with him spending time with me and talking to me (how long is that going to last). This OW has been engaged twice before and I know she really wants my H. Is it possible he will realize what he has left eventually? We have a 17yr. old daughter and a dog that he adores. How can it be rosie over there. He tells me he doesn't sleep and he cries alot. Should I go back to a Plan B? I'm trying to be his friend and keep things calm and I've told him I forgive him. I feel like I'm really losing him. I know I can't make him decide but I miss him terribly. It's like he's going through a mid-life crisis- has lost weight, long hair, just bought a Jeep convertible. I'm looking really great myself-lost weight, dressing nicely. He's told me how great I look. Do I try to get him to fall back in love with me? I just bounce from one idea to the next. Tomorrow I'm going to the Dr. to get anti-depressants to help me cope. I see a therapist and am going to a separation group session tomorrow for the first time. Any advice and help would be much appreciated.

anti depressants will help you to get through these hard days,
I had my doctor put me on them a few years back, but what I think helps the most is spending time alone with God ,praying and reading scripture, I know how hard it is when the one you love is gone with another women, I have been going through this with my husband for 2 years now of him going back and forth from me to her. its very painful, and I am sorry there is no quick fix to get out, but the one thing that gives me peace is my relationship with Jesus.I pray you will seek the face of the Lord to get through this. Love Lisa